Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In this book he discusses how we can make use of his experience in dealing with people. Relaying many stories of past encounters with horses and people he is able to communicate his concepts very emotionally. A great book for parrents, teachers and boss' and although I am none of these I found it a great read and would recommend it to anyone taking on a leadership role

Human relationships from an 'equine' perspective, 16 Nov 2000
Amongst the many people who will wish to buy this book will be those who know of Roberts' writing on horses. (Monty Roberts' reputation as "the man who listens to horses" should ensure good sales.) But this book will also be of interest to parents and to business-people who want to understand relationships and improve the way we treat other human beings. Testament to the value of Monty Roberts' work is given in the large number of corporations which have sent their managers to watch and learn from his methods. HM Queen Elizabeth II encouraged him to chronicle his life in his first book in 1996, The man who listens to horses.

Join-Up describes the way that Monty Roberts invites horses to join with him willingly, how he encourages co-operation. "During Join-Up I never force the saddle or bridle on the horse - instead I provide an environment in which the horse willingly decides to allow itself to be saddled and eventually ridden. The horse takes responsibility for its actions and the whole process is both more effective, speedier and more positive than that used by traditional horsemen. ... Choice is equally as important to human beings...." (p.197)

"It seemed to me, as I watched my father and other traditional horse trainers work, that their entire focus was on telling the horse that he had no choice, on subduing him into an unequal working relationship." (p.xvii)

We communicate before we put things into words. A large part of the book concentrates on explaining why non-verbal communication is so important to us in all our activities: in our family relationships, in our working lives. It is the responsibility of the person with the most power to gain the trust of those with less power: be it parent to child or manager to employee. Roberts illustrates this by discussing his work with horses as prey animals.

Roberts uses examples of his work with horses to illustrate his observations of human interaction and takes us away from our usual ways of seeing and experiencing events (where we may not always be able to see the wood for the trees). We hear of the wild mustang mare which connected with him so quickly that she 'protected' him from what she perceived to be a terrible threat. We learn about the horse's advance and retreat communication process. We understand and empathise with those stories and then are guided to transfer our learning to human-to-human communication, being provided with metaphors from the equestrian world.

"If I could take every corporate executive and put him or her through a few sessions in the round pen with a horse, their understanding of trust would be elevated to such an extent that they would go back into the workplace with a whole new confidence. They would also give more importance to what goes on in the lives of their colleagues, both inside and outside their workplace." (p.98)

On the one hand, the academic in me wants to see rigorous research methods employed, not only one man's stories and interpretations. On the other hand, the horse owner in me respects the work of Monty Roberts and his groundbreaking and sensitive techniques with horses, his study of their non-verbal communication, forcing himself to interpret horses, encouraging them to trust him. His work started with keen observation of the horses, noting how they communicated together, learning as much as he could from them, moving on to a more participant observation where he made contact with the horses and interacted with them, all the time "listening" with his eyes to the language of their bodies, noting their responses, all the time building up his stock of knowledge and understanding, all the time learning from the horses.

"There is no such thing as teaching, only learning. Knowledge cannot be pushed into a brain; it must be willingly drawn in to the brain by the recipient." (p.62)

We as humans, too, communicate non-verbally. It seems the words we use are only a small part of the communication process, but all too often we give all our attention to the actual words we use. Only infrequently do we become aware of the effect of our tone of voice and our body language. If our words say one thing, but everything else we do contradicts our words, then our credibility is lost and we are trusted less.

This book shows us how a horse's previous experiences affect his present behaviour and we are shown how this is also true of humans. Managers can learn from this: "Abused people need much convincing before they are willing to trust again." (p.106)

"If company policy relies more on a big stick than a big carrot it tends to erode trust. If the messages handed down to employees are confused or hard to discern it equally erodes trust. The enlightened executive who identifies elements of distrust within his corporate family should take swift action to remove that influence from his team." (p.97)

We are given some concrete examples of Monty Robert's suggestions for parents communicating with their children, such as 'the blackboard system' which he recommends for dealing with children's behaviour. "The primary objective of this system is to bypass the parent as the administrator of discipline or punishment. It sets up a contract whereby child and parent bilaterally agree on the response to positive or negative behaviour...." (pp.145-6). We are provided with several examples of how people have successfully implemented this system.

I am left wanting such concrete examples for business-people, too and I would love to hear exactly how the corporations he mentions designed and implemented changes to their business methods.

"No one has the right to say, 'You must or I will hurt you.' To any creature, animal or human." (p.xviii)

As good as The Man Who Listens to Horses, 08 Nov 2000
If you liked The Man Who Listens to Horses, I'm sure you'll love this. I think that Monty Roberts is a great storyteller - and this is full of great stories. It's not at all a 'new age' book: Monty Roberts just shows how well his horse gentling technique works in human relationships, passing on the lessons he's learned about communication. Some of the stories moved me to tears. It's the sort of book I'd like to give to every bullying teacher or parent or boss.

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In this book he discusses how we can make use of his experience in dealing with people. Relaying many stories of past encounters with horses and people he is able to communicate his concepts very emotionally. A great book for parrents, teachers and boss' and although I am none of these I found it a great read and would recommend it to anyone taking on a leadership role

Human relationships from an 'equine' perspective, 16 Nov 2000
Amongst the many people who will wish to buy this book will be those who know of Roberts' writing on horses. (Monty Roberts' reputation as "the man who listens to horses" should ensure good sales.) But this book will also be of interest to parents and to business-people who want to understand relationships and improve the way we treat other human beings. Testament to the value of Monty Roberts' work is given in the large number of corporations which have sent their managers to watch and learn from his methods. HM Queen Elizabeth II encouraged him to chronicle his life in his first book in 1996, The man who listens to horses.

Join-Up describes the way that Monty Roberts invites horses to join with him willingly, how he encourages co-operation. "During Join-Up I never force the saddle or bridle on the horse - instead I provide an environment in which the horse willingly decides to allow itself to be saddled and eventually ridden. The horse takes responsibility for its actions and the whole process is both more effective, speedier and more positive than that used by traditional horsemen. ... Choice is equally as important to human beings...." (p.197)

"It seemed to me, as I watched my father and other traditional horse trainers work, that their entire focus was on telling the horse that he had no choice, on subduing him into an unequal working relationship." (p.xvii)

We communicate before we put things into words. A large part of the book concentrates on explaining why non-verbal communication is so important to us in all our activities: in our family relationships, in our working lives. It is the responsibility of the person with the most power to gain the trust of those with less power: be it parent to child or manager to employee. Roberts illustrates this by discussing his work with horses as prey animals.

Roberts uses examples of his work with horses to illustrate his observations of human interaction and takes us away from our usual ways of seeing and experiencing events (where we may not always be able to see the wood for the trees). We hear of the wild mustang mare which connected with him so quickly that she 'protected' him from what she perceived to be a terrible threat. We learn about the horse's advance and retreat communication process. We understand and empathise with those stories and then are guided to transfer our learning to human-to-human communication, being provided with metaphors from the equestrian world.

"If I could take every corporate executive and put him or her through a few sessions in the round pen with a horse, their understanding of trust would be elevated to such an extent that they would go back into the workplace with a whole new confidence. They would also give more importance to what goes on in the lives of their colleagues, both inside and outside their workplace." (p.98)

On the one hand, the academic in me wants to see rigorous research methods employed, not only one man's stories and interpretations. On the other hand, the horse owner in me respects the work of Monty Roberts and his groundbreaking and sensitive techniques with horses, his study of their non-verbal communication, forcing himself to interpret horses, encouraging them to trust him. His work started with keen observation of the horses, noting how they communicated together, learning as much as he could from them, moving on to a more participant observation where he made contact with the horses and interacted with them, all the time "listening" with his eyes to the language of their bodies, noting their responses, all the time building up his stock of knowledge and understanding, all the time learning from the horses.

"There is no such thing as teaching, only learning. Knowledge cannot be pushed into a brain; it must be willingly drawn in to the brain by the recipient." (p.62)

We as humans, too, communicate non-verbally. It seems the words we use are only a small part of the communication process, but all too often we give all our attention to the actual words we use. Only infrequently do we become aware of the effect of our tone of voice and our body language. If our words say one thing, but everything else we do contradicts our words, then our credibility is lost and we are trusted less.

This book shows us how a horse's previous experiences affect his present behaviour and we are shown how this is also true of humans. Managers can learn from this: "Abused people need much convincing before they are willing to trust again." (p.106)

"If company policy relies more on a big stick than a big carrot it tends to erode trust. If the messages handed down to employees are confused or hard to discern it equally erodes trust. The enlightened executive who identifies elements of distrust within his corporate family should take swift action to remove that influence from his team." (p.97)

We are given some concrete examples of Monty Robert's suggestions for parents communicating with their children, such as 'the blackboard system' which he recommends for dealing with children's behaviour. "The primary objective of this system is to bypass the parent as the administrator of discipline or punishment. It sets up a contract whereby child and parent bilaterally agree on the response to positive or negative behaviour...." (pp.145-6). We are provided with several examples of how people have successfully implemented this system.

I am left wanting such concrete examples for business-people, too and I would love to hear exactly how the corporations he mentions designed and implemented changes to their business methods.

"No one has the right to say, 'You must or I will hurt you.' To any creature, animal or human." (p.xviii)

As good as The Man Who Listens to Horses, 08 Nov 2000
If you liked The Man Who Listens to Horses, I'm sure you'll love this. I think that Monty Roberts is a great storyteller - and this is full of great stories. It's not at all a 'new age' book: Monty Roberts just shows how well his horse gentling technique works in human relationships, passing on the lessons he's learned about communication. Some of the stories moved me to tears. It's the sort of book I'd like to give to every bullying teacher or parent or boss.

Insightful must have relationship handbook!, 01 Aug 2006

I first read this book over a year ago and have just re-read it recently. I found it very insightful and so helpful on both occasions.

I think it is definitely worth reading and you may learn something new.

I learnt new ways to communicate with my boyfriend and turn what we had into the relationship i had always wanted. I also learnt valuable lessons about myself and my own behaviour and realised that some of the things i said or did were having a destructive effect on our relationship - it definitely wasn't all my boyfriend's fault as i had originally thought.

The love letters are an invaluable tool for organising your thoughts rather than just launching into an argument - it pays to take a deep breath and write one using the structured guide. I guarantee you will be surprised at some of the feelings and thoughts that come out.

I have recently passed this book to a friend and it has been so rewarding to see her take control of her relationship using the advice it contains. I would recommend it to anyone looking for a new approach to their relationship.




Useful to a certain extent!, 17 Aug 2005
I have read this book several times, and even though it useful in helping understand the different ways men and women think & feel, it does tend to simplify things. This book shouldn't be read as a way of magically saving or fixing a relationship, although the suggestions are helpful, you may not get all the answers & solutions you want. After all it might explain why men go into their 'caves' but doesn't tell you what to do if they never come out!! It might help you improve what you've got, but isn't going to teach you how to make something out of nothing! I think the opposite sex will always to some extent remain one of life's greatest mysteries, & isn't that part of the fun?!

Very helpful indeed!, 15 Jun 2005
This book is amazing! It goes into such detail about how men and women think differently and how and what they hear when their partner speaks to them. Excellent book if you would like to better understand your partner. Just get him to read it too!! I found it really improved my understanding of how my husband thinks. It also helped me to understand myself better and why I think and feel certain ways. It just makes sence! Read this book if your relationship is in any kind of trouble!

Sit at the foot of a native elder and listen as great wisdom of days long past is passed down. In The Four Agreements shamanic teacher and healer Don Michael Ruiz exposes self-limiting beliefs and presents a simple, yet effective code of personal conduct learned from his Toltec ancestors. Full of grace and simple truth, this handsomely-designed book makes a lovely gift for anyone making an elementary change in life, and reads in a voice like one would expect an indigenous shaman to sound. The four agreements are these: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best. It's the how and why one should do these things that make The Four Agreements worth reading and remembering. --P Randall Cohan

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In this book he discusses how we can make use of his experience in dealing with people. Relaying many stories of past encounters with horses and people he is able to communicate his concepts very emotionally. A great book for parrents, teachers and boss' and although I am none of these I found it a great read and would recommend it to anyone taking on a leadership role

Human relationships from an 'equine' perspective, 16 Nov 2000
Amongst the many people who will wish to buy this book will be those who know of Roberts' writing on horses. (Monty Roberts' reputation as "the man who listens to horses" should ensure good sales.) But this book will also be of interest to parents and to business-people who want to understand relationships and improve the way we treat other human beings. Testament to the value of Monty Roberts' work is given in the large number of corporations which have sent their managers to watch and learn from his methods. HM Queen Elizabeth II encouraged him to chronicle his life in his first book in 1996, The man who listens to horses.

Join-Up describes the way that Monty Roberts invites horses to join with him willingly, how he encourages co-operation. "During Join-Up I never force the saddle or bridle on the horse - instead I provide an environment in which the horse willingly decides to allow itself to be saddled and eventually ridden. The horse takes responsibility for its actions and the whole process is both more effective, speedier and more positive than that used by traditional horsemen. ... Choice is equally as important to human beings...." (p.197)

"It seemed to me, as I watched my father and other traditional horse trainers work, that their entire focus was on telling the horse that he had no choice, on subduing him into an unequal working relationship." (p.xvii)

We communicate before we put things into words. A large part of the book concentrates on explaining why non-verbal communication is so important to us in all our activities: in our family relationships, in our working lives. It is the responsibility of the person with the most power to gain the trust of those with less power: be it parent to child or manager to employee. Roberts illustrates this by discussing his work with horses as prey animals.

Roberts uses examples of his work with horses to illustrate his observations of human interaction and takes us away from our usual ways of seeing and experiencing events (where we may not always be able to see the wood for the trees). We hear of the wild mustang mare which connected with him so quickly that she 'protected' him from what she perceived to be a terrible threat. We learn about the horse's advance and retreat communication process. We understand and empathise with those stories and then are guided to transfer our learning to human-to-human communication, being provided with metaphors from the equestrian world.

"If I could take every corporate executive and put him or her through a few sessions in the round pen with a horse, their understanding of trust would be elevated to such an extent that they would go back into the workplace with a whole new confidence. They would also give more importance to what goes on in the lives of their colleagues, both inside and outside their workplace." (p.98)

On the one hand, the academic in me wants to see rigorous research methods employed, not only one man's stories and interpretations. On the other hand, the horse owner in me respects the work of Monty Roberts and his groundbreaking and sensitive techniques with horses, his study of their non-verbal communication, forcing himself to interpret horses, encouraging them to trust him. His work started with keen observation of the horses, noting how they communicated together, learning as much as he could from them, moving on to a more participant observation where he made contact with the horses and interacted with them, all the time "listening" with his eyes to the language of their bodies, noting their responses, all the time building up his stock of knowledge and understanding, all the time learning from the horses.

"There is no such thing as teaching, only learning. Knowledge cannot be pushed into a brain; it must be willingly drawn in to the brain by the recipient." (p.62)

We as humans, too, communicate non-verbally. It seems the words we use are only a small part of the communication process, but all too often we give all our attention to the actual words we use. Only infrequently do we become aware of the effect of our tone of voice and our body language. If our words say one thing, but everything else we do contradicts our words, then our credibility is lost and we are trusted less.

This book shows us how a horse's previous experiences affect his present behaviour and we are shown how this is also true of humans. Managers can learn from this: "Abused people need much convincing before they are willing to trust again." (p.106)

"If company policy relies more on a big stick than a big carrot it tends to erode trust. If the messages handed down to employees are confused or hard to discern it equally erodes trust. The enlightened executive who identifies elements of distrust within his corporate family should take swift action to remove that influence from his team." (p.97)

We are given some concrete examples of Monty Robert's suggestions for parents communicating with their children, such as 'the blackboard system' which he recommends for dealing with children's behaviour. "The primary objective of this system is to bypass the parent as the administrator of discipline or punishment. It sets up a contract whereby child and parent bilaterally agree on the response to positive or negative behaviour...." (pp.145-6). We are provided with several examples of how people have successfully implemented this system.

I am left wanting such concrete examples for business-people, too and I would love to hear exactly how the corporations he mentions designed and implemented changes to their business methods.

"No one has the right to say, 'You must or I will hurt you.' To any creature, animal or human." (p.xviii)

As good as The Man Who Listens to Horses, 08 Nov 2000
If you liked The Man Who Listens to Horses, I'm sure you'll love this. I think that Monty Roberts is a great storyteller - and this is full of great stories. It's not at all a 'new age' book: Monty Roberts just shows how well his horse gentling technique works in human relationships, passing on the lessons he's learned about communication. Some of the stories moved me to tears. It's the sort of book I'd like to give to every bullying teacher or parent or boss.

Insightful must have relationship handbook!, 01 Aug 2006

I first read this book over a year ago and have just re-read it recently. I found it very insightful and so helpful on both occasions.

I think it is definitely worth reading and you may learn something new.

I learnt new ways to communicate with my boyfriend and turn what we had into the relationship i had always wanted. I also learnt valuable lessons about myself and my own behaviour and realised that some of the things i said or did were having a destructive effect on our relationship - it definitely wasn't all my boyfriend's fault as i had originally thought.

The love letters are an invaluable tool for organising your thoughts rather than just launching into an argument - it pays to take a deep breath and write one using the structured guide. I guarantee you will be surprised at some of the feelings and thoughts that come out.

I have recently passed this book to a friend and it has been so rewarding to see her take control of her relationship using the advice it contains. I would recommend it to anyone looking for a new approach to their relationship.




Useful to a certain extent!, 17 Aug 2005
I have read this book several times, and even though it useful in helping understand the different ways men and women think & feel, it does tend to simplify things. This book shouldn't be read as a way of magically saving or fixing a relationship, although the suggestions are helpful, you may not get all the answers & solutions you want. After all it might explain why men go into their 'caves' but doesn't tell you what to do if they never come out!! It might help you improve what you've got, but isn't going to teach you how to make something out of nothing! I think the opposite sex will always to some extent remain one of life's greatest mysteries, & isn't that part of the fun?!

Very helpful indeed!, 15 Jun 2005
This book is amazing! It goes into such detail about how men and women think differently and how and what they hear when their partner speaks to them. Excellent book if you would like to better understand your partner. Just get him to read it too!! I found it really improved my understanding of how my husband thinks. It also helped me to understand myself better and why I think and feel certain ways. It just makes sence! Read this book if your relationship is in any kind of trouble!

A Great Addition to My Life's Toolbox, 13 Nov 2008
I agree with other reviewers: this book is worth your money.

The four agreements go like this: Be Impeccable with Your Word; Don't Take Things Personally; Don't Make Assumptions; and Always Do Your Best.

I read it again once I'd finished it because the four agreements can change one's life for the better. I've already noticed benefits in my daily life and in my relationships (especially the one with myself.)

The author writes in a very simple way (no literary intentions here); and what he says and shares regarding each agreement makes all his messages sink in.

This book will become a literary-sleeper (if it's not the case already), just like The Road Less Travelled by S. Peck.


No Limits, 14 Aug 2008
This was an inspiring read. The Four Agreements are beautiful, fresh, and uplifting concepts that one can easily integrate immediately. Ruiz believes we need not stay addicted to beliefs that limit us, nor should we strive for perfection, but always do our best. While reading this profound yet simple book, I recognized beliefs I had adopted since childhood that were based in fear, not in reality. Being free of these limiting ideas allows me to live fully and joyously in the present.

Another book filled with supportive and effortless ways to live magically in the "now" is called " Being Here" by Ariel and Shya Kane. They introduce three principals that make living a brilliant life a possibility right now...without working at it! I can feel all of these authors' integrity and generosity on every page.

A 3 yr old could have done better!, 02 Jul 2008
Really, I dont undertstand how anyone could have given this book 5 stars...it doesnt even deserve 1 star! There's nothing insightful about it and even an idiot doesn't need to be told 'the four agreements' to know them. A 3 yr old could have written a better book on the subject. Pls dont waste your money in buying this book...anyone want my copy?

A very powerful code to live by, 17 Jan 2008
Anyone brousing this review who's considering buying this book; I'd ask the following of you;

Imagine that you have permission to be happy and really enjoy your life - that your life is free of internal conflict within yourself and that created by others?

Imagine living your life without the fear of being judged by others? - that you know longer behave fearing how others might judge you?

Imagine letting go of any judgments you have about others and being able to forgive and not feeling the need to be right or make anyone else wrong?

Imagine you no longer fear being rejected and that you no longer have a compulsion to be accepted?

Imagine living without the fear of being loved or the need to be loved?

Imagine loving yourself for just the way you are without the need to live your life through someone else's eyes?

These are the fundamental questions this wonderful book answers via The Four Agreements.

Its a simple yet very profound read as it opens up our thinking and makes us realise how much energy we use and stress we take on in trying to live our lives under the burdons of social conditioning. It makes the point so clearly that its not what happens around us that counts, its how we choose to set our lives up and to live that matters.

Why should we choose to be victims in our own minds and carry around the weight of regret, hoplessness, envy or fear? Why should we shape our actions to constantly get the approval of others? - many who we have never even previously met?

This book has the answers. It makes the point that we aren't afraid to die but we are afraid to live and express ourselves. Its simple and it really drives the point home that we cannot continue to dwell in the past or to live in the future. We must live in the 'Now'




great inspirational book, 30 Nov 2007
A really good read! a self help book that is true and believable. it made me think!

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In this book he discusses how we can make use of his experience in dealing with people. Relaying many stories of past encounters with horses and people he is able to communicate his concepts very emotionally. A great book for parrents, teachers and boss' and although I am none of these I found it a great read and would recommend it to anyone taking on a leadership role

Human relationships from an 'equine' perspective, 16 Nov 2000
Amongst the many people who will wish to buy this book will be those who know of Roberts' writing on horses. (Monty Roberts' reputation as "the man who listens to horses" should ensure good sales.) But this book will also be of interest to parents and to business-people who want to understand relationships and improve the way we treat other human beings. Testament to the value of Monty Roberts' work is given in the large number of corporations which have sent their managers to watch and learn from his methods. HM Queen Elizabeth II encouraged him to chronicle his life in his first book in 1996, The man who listens to horses.

Join-Up describes the way that Monty Roberts invites horses to join with him willingly, how he encourages co-operation. "During Join-Up I never force the saddle or bridle on the horse - instead I provide an environment in which the horse willingly decides to allow itself to be saddled and eventually ridden. The horse takes responsibility for its actions and the whole process is both more effective, speedier and more positive than that used by traditional horsemen. ... Choice is equally as important to human beings...." (p.197)

"It seemed to me, as I watched my father and other traditional horse trainers work, that their entire focus was on telling the horse that he had no choice, on subduing him into an unequal working relationship." (p.xvii)

We communicate before we put things into words. A large part of the book concentrates on explaining why non-verbal communication is so important to us in all our activities: in our family relationships, in our working lives. It is the responsibility of the person with the most power to gain the trust of those with less power: be it parent to child or manager to employee. Roberts illustrates this by discussing his work with horses as prey animals.

Roberts uses examples of his work with horses to illustrate his observations of human interaction and takes us away from our usual ways of seeing and experiencing events (where we may not always be able to see the wood for the trees). We hear of the wild mustang mare which connected with him so quickly that she 'protected' him from what she perceived to be a terrible threat. We learn about the horse's advance and retreat communication process. We understand and empathise with those stories and then are guided to transfer our learning to human-to-human communication, being provided with metaphors from the equestrian world.

"If I could take every corporate executive and put him or her through a few sessions in the round pen with a horse, their understanding of trust would be elevated to such an extent that they would go back into the workplace with a whole new confidence. They would also give more importance to what goes on in the lives of their colleagues, both inside and outside their workplace." (p.98)

On the one hand, the academic in me wants to see rigorous research methods employed, not only one man's stories and interpretations. On the other hand, the horse owner in me respects the work of Monty Roberts and his groundbreaking and sensitive techniques with horses, his study of their non-verbal communication, forcing himself to interpret horses, encouraging them to trust him. His work started with keen observation of the horses, noting how they communicated together, learning as much as he could from them, moving on to a more participant observation where he made contact with the horses and interacted with them, all the time "listening" with his eyes to the language of their bodies, noting their responses, all the time building up his stock of knowledge and understanding, all the time learning from the horses.

"There is no such thing as teaching, only learning. Knowledge cannot be pushed into a brain; it must be willingly drawn in to the brain by the recipient." (p.62)

We as humans, too, communicate non-verbally. It seems the words we use are only a small part of the communication process, but all too often we give all our attention to the actual words we use. Only infrequently do we become aware of the effect of our tone of voice and our body language. If our words say one thing, but everything else we do contradicts our words, then our credibility is lost and we are trusted less.

This book shows us how a horse's previous experiences affect his present behaviour and we are shown how this is also true of humans. Managers can learn from this: "Abused people need much convincing before they are willing to trust again." (p.106)

"If company policy relies more on a big stick than a big carrot it tends to erode trust. If the messages handed down to employees are confused or hard to discern it equally erodes trust. The enlightened executive who identifies elements of distrust within his corporate family should take swift action to remove that influence from his team." (p.97)

We are given some concrete examples of Monty Robert's suggestions for parents communicating with their children, such as 'the blackboard system' which he recommends for dealing with children's behaviour. "The primary objective of this system is to bypass the parent as the administrator of discipline or punishment. It sets up a contract whereby child and parent bilaterally agree on the response to positive or negative behaviour...." (pp.145-6). We are provided with several examples of how people have successfully implemented this system.

I am left wanting such concrete examples for business-people, too and I would love to hear exactly how the corporations he mentions designed and implemented changes to their business methods.

"No one has the right to say, 'You must or I will hurt you.' To any creature, animal or human." (p.xviii)

As good as The Man Who Listens to Horses, 08 Nov 2000
If you liked The Man Who Listens to Horses, I'm sure you'll love this. I think that Monty Roberts is a great storyteller - and this is full of great stories. It's not at all a 'new age' book: Monty Roberts just shows how well his horse gentling technique works in human relationships, passing on the lessons he's learned about communication. Some of the stories moved me to tears. It's the sort of book I'd like to give to every bullying teacher or parent or boss.

Insightful must have relationship handbook!, 01 Aug 2006

I first read this book over a year ago and have just re-read it recently. I found it very insightful and so helpful on both occasions.

I think it is definitely worth reading and you may learn something new.

I learnt new ways to communicate with my boyfriend and turn what we had into the relationship i had always wanted. I also learnt valuable lessons about myself and my own behaviour and realised that some of the things i said or did were having a destructive effect on our relationship - it definitely wasn't all my boyfriend's fault as i had originally thought.

The love letters are an invaluable tool for organising your thoughts rather than just launching into an argument - it pays to take a deep breath and write one using the structured guide. I guarantee you will be surprised at some of the feelings and thoughts that come out.

I have recently passed this book to a friend and it has been so rewarding to see her take control of her relationship using the advice it contains. I would recommend it to anyone looking for a new approach to their relationship.




Useful to a certain extent!, 17 Aug 2005
I have read this book several times, and even though it useful in helping understand the different ways men and women think & feel, it does tend to simplify things. This book shouldn't be read as a way of magically saving or fixing a relationship, although the suggestions are helpful, you may not get all the answers & solutions you want. After all it might explain why men go into their 'caves' but doesn't tell you what to do if they never come out!! It might help you improve what you've got, but isn't going to teach you how to make something out of nothing! I think the opposite sex will always to some extent remain one of life's greatest mysteries, & isn't that part of the fun?!

Very helpful indeed!, 15 Jun 2005
This book is amazing! It goes into such detail about how men and women think differently and how and what they hear when their partner speaks to them. Excellent book if you would like to better understand your partner. Just get him to read it too!! I found it really improved my understanding of how my husband thinks. It also helped me to understand myself better and why I think and feel certain ways. It just makes sence! Read this book if your relationship is in any kind of trouble!

A Great Addition to My Life's Toolbox, 13 Nov 2008
I agree with other reviewers: this book is worth your money.

The four agreements go like this: Be Impeccable with Your Word; Don't Take Things Personally; Don't Make Assumptions; and Always Do Your Best.

I read it again once I'd finished it because the four agreements can change one's life for the better. I've already noticed benefits in my daily life and in my relationships (especially the one with myself.)

The author writes in a very simple way (no literary intentions here); and what he says and shares regarding each agreement makes all his messages sink in.

This book will become a literary-sleeper (if it's not the case already), just like The Road Less Travelled by S. Peck.


No Limits, 14 Aug 2008
This was an inspiring read. The Four Agreements are beautiful, fresh, and uplifting concepts that one can easily integrate immediately. Ruiz believes we need not stay addicted to beliefs that limit us, nor should we strive for perfection, but always do our best. While reading this profound yet simple book, I recognized beliefs I had adopted since childhood that were based in fear, not in reality. Being free of these limiting ideas allows me to live fully and joyously in the present.

Another book filled with supportive and effortless ways to live magically in the "now" is called " Being Here" by Ariel and Shya Kane. They introduce three principals that make living a brilliant life a possibility right now...without working at it! I can feel all of these authors' integrity and generosity on every page.

A 3 yr old could have done better!, 02 Jul 2008
Really, I dont undertstand how anyone could have given this book 5 stars...it doesnt even deserve 1 star! There's nothing insightful about it and even an idiot doesn't need to be told 'the four agreements' to know them. A 3 yr old could have written a better book on the subject. Pls dont waste your money in buying this book...anyone want my copy?

A very powerful code to live by, 17 Jan 2008
Anyone brousing this review who's considering buying this book; I'd ask the following of you;

Imagine that you have permission to be happy and really enjoy your life - that your life is free of internal conflict within yourself and that created by others?

Imagine living your life without the fear of being judged by others? - that you know longer behave fearing how others might judge you?

Imagine letting go of any judgments you have about others and being able to forgive and not feeling the need to be right or make anyone else wrong?

Imagine you no longer fear being rejected and that you no longer have a compulsion to be accepted?

Imagine living without the fear of being loved or the need to be loved?

Imagine loving yourself for just the way you are without the need to live your life through someone else's eyes?

These are the fundamental questions this wonderful book answers via The Four Agreements.

Its a simple yet very profound read as it opens up our thinking and makes us realise how much energy we use and stress we take on in trying to live our lives under the burdons of social conditioning. It makes the point so clearly that its not what happens around us that counts, its how we choose to set our lives up and to live that matters.

Why should we choose to be victims in our own minds and carry around the weight of regret, hoplessness, envy or fear? Why should we shape our actions to constantly get the approval of others? - many who we have never even previously met?

This book has the answers. It makes the point that we aren't afraid to die but we are afraid to live and express ourselves. Its simple and it really drives the point home that we cannot continue to dwell in the past or to live in the future. We must live in the 'Now'




great inspirational book, 30 Nov 2007
A really good read! a self help book that is true and believable. it made me think!

Oh dear !!, 24 Nov 2008
I'm going against the grain here but I feel strongly about this particular book. I genuinely think that Susan Jeffers is trivialising peoples fear here, there is the big question that springs to my mind immediately,How much fear has this woman actually felt ?

Does this woman know what its like to be paralysed by fear and anxiety ?.And if she does then does it not appear somewhat callous to say to someone "Feel the fear and do it anyway "?. Has anyone out there used the pain to power chart ? Does it work ? I don't think so.

I will not make apologies for my cynicism however if this book has a positive impact on your life then good for you. Frankly it left me feeling a little raw.

A genuine classic - you'll return to it again and again., 25 Sep 2008
This was the first 'pop psychology' book I ever bought, and it's a well-thumbed classic. Upbeat and practical, it's helpful for changing your mindset as well as your habits. A good mix of psychobabble and practical exercises. I found it especially helpful when leaving university, and having to make what felt like big choices about what to do next. The book helped me realise that all my choices could be positive and made me feel less afraid of missing out on something.

Not very helpful, 15 Aug 2008
I ordered this book on the strength of the earlier reviews saying how good it was. I personally found the book very simplistic and unhelpful. All it seems to say is 'Just go out and do whatever worries you' and also had a very unhelpful message to people who may have low self esteem that if things worry you then basically thats your fault. If your job worries you change it, if your partner worries you... well change them... hey if your house worries you, change it... life is not as easy as that. Lets change everything shall we? A very unrealistic book....

A superb book packed with common sense advice for a fear-less life..., 24 Apr 2008
I'm one of Susan's authorised trainers in the UK, and know from experience how helpful this book can be.

With so many self-help titles on the market today, this stands the test of time and is a model of excellence in its field.

You won't be disappointed!

Andy Garland
YOU...bethebestyoucan


Life changing, 26 Mar 2008
I bought this book few weeks ago and can say is the best book i have ever read till this day.

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In this book he discusses how we can make use of his experience in dealing with people. Relaying many stories of past encounters with horses and people he is able to communicate his concepts very emotionally. A great book for parrents, teachers and boss' and although I am none of these I found it a great read and would recommend it to anyone taking on a leadership role

Human relationships from an 'equine' perspective, 16 Nov 2000
Amongst the many people who will wish to buy this book will be those who know of Roberts' writing on horses. (Monty Roberts' reputation as "the man who listens to horses" should ensure good sales.) But this book will also be of interest to parents and to business-people who want to understand relationships and improve the way we treat other human beings. Testament to the value of Monty Roberts' work is given in the large number of corporations which have sent their managers to watch and learn from his methods. HM Queen Elizabeth II encouraged him to chronicle his life in his first book in 1996, The man who listens to horses.

Join-Up describes the way that Monty Roberts invites horses to join with him willingly, how he encourages co-operation. "During Join-Up I never force the saddle or bridle on the horse - instead I provide an environment in which the horse willingly decides to allow itself to be saddled and eventually ridden. The horse takes responsibility for its actions and the whole process is both more effective, speedier and more positive than that used by traditional horsemen. ... Choice is equally as important to human beings...." (p.197)

"It seemed to me, as I watched my father and other traditional horse trainers work, that their entire focus was on telling the horse that he had no choice, on subduing him into an unequal working relationship." (p.xvii)

We communicate before we put things into words. A large part of the book concentrates on explaining why non-verbal communication is so important to us in all our activities: in our family relationships, in our working lives. It is the responsibility of the person with the most power to gain the trust of those with less power: be it parent to child or manager to employee. Roberts illustrates this by discussing his work with horses as prey animals.

Roberts uses examples of his work with horses to illustrate his observations of human interaction and takes us away from our usual ways of seeing and experiencing events (where we may not always be able to see the wood for the trees). We hear of the wild mustang mare which connected with him so quickly that she 'protected' him from what she perceived to be a terrible threat. We learn about the horse's advance and retreat communication process. We understand and empathise with those stories and then are guided to transfer our learning to human-to-human communication, being provided with metaphors from the equestrian world.

"If I could take every corporate executive and put him or her through a few sessions in the round pen with a horse, their understanding of trust would be elevated to such an extent that they would go back into the workplace with a whole new confidence. They would also give more importance to what goes on in the lives of their colleagues, both inside and outside their workplace." (p.98)

On the one hand, the academic in me wants to see rigorous research methods employed, not only one man's stories and interpretations. On the other hand, the horse owner in me respects the work of Monty Roberts and his groundbreaking and sensitive techniques with horses, his study of their non-verbal communication, forcing himself to interpret horses, encouraging them to trust him. His work started with keen observation of the horses, noting how they communicated together, learning as much as he could from them, moving on to a more participant observation where he made contact with the horses and interacted with them, all the time "listening" with his eyes to the language of their bodies, noting their responses, all the time building up his stock of knowledge and understanding, all the time learning from the horses.

"There is no such thing as teaching, only learning. Knowledge cannot be pushed into a brain; it must be willingly drawn in to the brain by the recipient." (p.62)

We as humans, too, communicate non-verbally. It seems the words we use are only a small part of the communication process, but all too often we give all our attention to the actual words we use. Only infrequently do we become aware of the effect of our tone of voice and our body language. If our words say one thing, but everything else we do contradicts our words, then our credibility is lost and we are trusted less.

This book shows us how a horse's previous experiences affect his present behaviour and we are shown how this is also true of humans. Managers can learn from this: "Abused people need much convincing before they are willing to trust again." (p.106)

"If company policy relies more on a big stick than a big carrot it tends to erode trust. If the messages handed down to employees are confused or hard to discern it equally erodes trust. The enlightened executive who identifies elements of distrust within his corporate family should take swift action to remove that influence from his team." (p.97)

We are given some concrete examples of Monty Robert's suggestions for parents communicating with their children, such as 'the blackboard system' which he recommends for dealing with children's behaviour. "The primary objective of this system is to bypass the parent as the administrator of discipline or punishment. It sets up a contract whereby child and parent bilaterally agree on the response to positive or negative behaviour...." (pp.145-6). We are provided with several examples of how people have successfully implemented this system.

I am left wanting such concrete examples for business-people, too and I would love to hear exactly how the corporations he mentions designed and implemented changes to their business methods.

"No one has the right to say, 'You must or I will hurt you.' To any creature, animal or human." (p.xviii)

As good as The Man Who Listens to Horses, 08 Nov 2000
If you liked The Man Who Listens to Horses, I'm sure you'll love this. I think that Monty Roberts is a great storyteller - and this is full of great stories. It's not at all a 'new age' book: Monty Roberts just shows how well his horse gentling technique works in human relationships, passing on the lessons he's learned about communication. Some of the stories moved me to tears. It's the sort of book I'd like to give to every bullying teacher or parent or boss.

Insightful must have relationship handbook!, 01 Aug 2006

I first read this book over a year ago and have just re-read it recently. I found it very insightful and so helpful on both occasions.

I think it is definitely worth reading and you may learn something new.

I learnt new ways to communicate with my boyfriend and turn what we had into the relationship i had always wanted. I also learnt valuable lessons about myself and my own behaviour and realised that some of the things i said or did were having a destructive effect on our relationship - it definitely wasn't all my boyfriend's fault as i had originally thought.

The love letters are an invaluable tool for organising your thoughts rather than just launching into an argument - it pays to take a deep breath and write one using the structured guide. I guarantee you will be surprised at some of the feelings and thoughts that come out.

I have recently passed this book to a friend and it has been so rewarding to see her take control of her relationship using the advice it contains. I would recommend it to anyone looking for a new approach to their relationship.




Useful to a certain extent!, 17 Aug 2005
I have read this book several times, and even though it useful in helping understand the different ways men and women think & feel, it does tend to simplify things. This book shouldn't be read as a way of magically saving or fixing a relationship, although the suggestions are helpful, you may not get all the answers & solutions you want. After all it might explain why men go into their 'caves' but doesn't tell you what to do if they never come out!! It might help you improve what you've got, but isn't going to teach you how to make something out of nothing! I think the opposite sex will always to some extent remain one of life's greatest mysteries, & isn't that part of the fun?!

Very helpful indeed!, 15 Jun 2005
This book is amazing! It goes into such detail about how men and women think differently and how and what they hear when their partner speaks to them. Excellent book if you would like to better understand your partner. Just get him to read it too!! I found it really improved my understanding of how my husband thinks. It also helped me to understand myself better and why I think and feel certain ways. It just makes sence! Read this book if your relationship is in any kind of trouble!

A Great Addition to My Life's Toolbox, 13 Nov 2008
I agree with other reviewers: this book is worth your money.

The four agreements go like this: Be Impeccable with Your Word; Don't Take Things Personally; Don't Make Assumptions; and Always Do Your Best.

I read it again once I'd finished it because the four agreements can change one's life for the better. I've already noticed benefits in my daily life and in my relationships (especially the one with myself.)

The author writes in a very simple way (no literary intentions here); and what he says and shares regarding each agreement makes all his messages sink in.

This book will become a literary-sleeper (if it's not the case already), just like The Road Less Travelled by S. Peck.


No Limits, 14 Aug 2008
This was an inspiring read. The Four Agreements are beautiful, fresh, and uplifting concepts that one can easily integrate immediately. Ruiz believes we need not stay addicted to beliefs that limit us, nor should we strive for perfection, but always do our best. While reading this profound yet simple book, I recognized beliefs I had adopted since childhood that were based in fear, not in reality. Being free of these limiting ideas allows me to live fully and joyously in the present.

Another book filled with supportive and effortless ways to live magically in the "now" is called " Being Here" by Ariel and Shya Kane. They introduce three principals that make living a brilliant life a possibility right now...without working at it! I can feel all of these authors' integrity and generosity on every page.

A 3 yr old could have done better!, 02 Jul 2008
Really, I dont undertstand how anyone could have given this book 5 stars...it doesnt even deserve 1 star! There's nothing insightful about it and even an idiot doesn't need to be told 'the four agreements' to know them. A 3 yr old could have written a better book on the subject. Pls dont waste your money in buying this book...anyone want my copy?

A very powerful code to live by, 17 Jan 2008
Anyone brousing this review who's considering buying this book; I'd ask the following of you;

Imagine that you have permission to be happy and really enjoy your life - that your life is free of internal conflict within yourself and that created by others?

Imagine living your life without the fear of being judged by others? - that you know longer behave fearing how others might judge you?

Imagine letting go of any judgments you have about others and being able to forgive and not feeling the need to be right or make anyone else wrong?

Imagine you no longer fear being rejected and that you no longer have a compulsion to be accepted?

Imagine living without the fear of being loved or the need to be loved?

Imagine loving yourself for just the way you are without the need to live your life through someone else's eyes?

These are the fundamental questions this wonderful book answers via The Four Agreements.

Its a simple yet very profound read as it opens up our thinking and makes us realise how much energy we use and stress we take on in trying to live our lives under the burdons of social conditioning. It makes the point so clearly that its not what happens around us that counts, its how we choose to set our lives up and to live that matters.

Why should we choose to be victims in our own minds and carry around the weight of regret, hoplessness, envy or fear? Why should we shape our actions to constantly get the approval of others? - many who we have never even previously met?

This book has the answers. It makes the point that we aren't afraid to die but we are afraid to live and express ourselves. Its simple and it really drives the point home that we cannot continue to dwell in the past or to live in the future. We must live in the 'Now'




great inspirational book, 30 Nov 2007
A really good read! a self help book that is true and believable. it made me think!

Oh dear !!, 24 Nov 2008
I'm going against the grain here but I feel strongly about this particular book. I genuinely think that Susan Jeffers is trivialising peoples fear here, there is the big question that springs to my mind immediately,How much fear has this woman actually felt ?

Does this woman know what its like to be paralysed by fear and anxiety ?.And if she does then does it not appear somewhat callous to say to someone "Feel the fear and do it anyway "?. Has anyone out there used the pain to power chart ? Does it work ? I don't think so.

I will not make apologies for my cynicism however if this book has a positive impact on your life then good for you. Frankly it left me feeling a little raw.

A genuine classic - you'll return to it again and again., 25 Sep 2008
This was the first 'pop psychology' book I ever bought, and it's a well-thumbed classic. Upbeat and practical, it's helpful for changing your mindset as well as your habits. A good mix of psychobabble and practical exercises. I found it especially helpful when leaving university, and having to make what felt like big choices about what to do next. The book helped me realise that all my choices could be positive and made me feel less afraid of missing out on something.

Not very helpful, 15 Aug 2008
I ordered this book on the strength of the earlier reviews saying how good it was. I personally found the book very simplistic and unhelpful. All it seems to say is 'Just go out and do whatever worries you' and also had a very unhelpful message to people who may have low self esteem that if things worry you then basically thats your fault. If your job worries you change it, if your partner worries you... well change them... hey if your house worries you, change it... life is not as easy as that. Lets change everything shall we? A very unrealistic book....

A superb book packed with common sense advice for a fear-less life..., 24 Apr 2008
I'm one of Susan's authorised trainers in the UK, and know from experience how helpful this book can be.

With so many self-help titles on the market today, this stands the test of time and is a model of excellence in its field.

You won't be disappointed!

Andy Garland
YOU...bethebestyoucan


Life changing, 26 Mar 2008
I bought this book few weeks ago and can say is the best book i have ever read till this day.

Could have been a lot shorter, 22 Aug 2005
This book basically asks 17 questions about what you do, how you spend time, and what you believe - and then cuts away the dross and puts you onto the reality-path. You could pretty much work out these blocking factors in your own life and set about answering them by reality-checking each issue. If you cannot bring yourself to do that, then this book is a good start. I found it was a bit light on developing your own analysis methods and changing mindset. It's a bit like going to visit a wise old man and having him put you right about life and how it really is. But he doesn't tell you how to get self sufficient and you feel you'll be back again soon for another fix.

plain talking and honest, 17 Jan 2001
This book is well written and surprisingly non-patronising for a motivational "believe in your dreams" style book. Whereas many of the things mentioned in the book you already know, there are a lot of issues and home truths that you have no doubt pushed from your mind in order to "get on" in your life. It is exactly these kind of things this book is talking about. A sign of a great book is that there are parts you wish you'd written yourself and passages of text you somehow find yourself copying out in to a secret notebook. This is one such book.

Thought provoking- and full of usefull analogies!, 28 Dec 2000
This is great book! The author, in a uniquely warm way, blows open the excuses which are made everyday, and suggests why they are wrong. It's amazing- once you read this book, you will suddenly hear how many lies you tell to excuse yourself. This book is the cure!

Great, 19 Jul 2008
Ive never used a hypnotherapy c.d. before so i didn't know what to expect but this was great I've used it basically everyday for 2 weeks and i saw a big improvement in my mood and outlook. the reason i didn't give full marks is because you have to keep listening to it everyday for it to keep working (I missed a day and my mood dropped) but perhaps after a few weeks this is not necessary I'll wait and see.

"Dayper and Daypaahhh...", 26 Feb 2008
Being an American, my first reaction to Glenn Harrold's accent within a hypnotherapy recording was "Heeee heee heeee, get outta here -- you're joking, right??!" But I now own 3 of his CDs and listen to all of them regularly, so there must be something to it when he says his voice will take me "dayper and daypaahh." Now I have come to associate that accent with relaxation and positive feelings. (Imagine if I relocated to south London? I'd feel great all the time!) But seriously, there's a reason Glenn has been so successful. If you open your mind and relax as he instructs you to, the positive suggestions really do take hold. I am NOT a happy camper when I awake in the morning, but this morning after listening to Track 1 I was actually dancing around my living room to the music at the end, singing along "...I believe in flyin' hiiiiggghhhhh..." (Please don't tell anyone this.)
After devoted listening to Glenn's CDs and some from Paul McKenna over the past 4 months, I am a much happier person. I would recommend them to anyone who can manage enough of an open mind to give them a fair try.

These Work!, 05 Mar 2007
After only a week of listening to this tape, I felt more relaxed at work, more confident in myself and definately able to think more positively. I also sleep better and have stopped having nightmares. Also, I listened to the weight loss tape and started excersizing for the first time in 2 months. I don't think the tapes would work the same on everyone, and you may need to listen a lot for them to be very effective, but it's definatley worth having a go. If nothing else, it will definately relax you. I would recommend these cds/tapes to anyone who would like to change anything in their life for the better.

Positively effective, 13 Oct 2006
Once you get past the childish urge to imagine the hypnotist saying, "And where are they now, the little people of Stonehenge?" a frivolity based on Harrold's Nigel Tufnel-like accent and delivery (Spinal Tap fans, beware!), this CD really does work to take you into a positive mindset. The initially skeptical listener will have to suspend their disbelief at the effectiveness of the hypnotic techniques used, which rely on a combination of a soothing voice augmented by simple recording studio effects such as reverb and panning from left to right plus soft New Age music, but once one overcomes such hurdles and surrenders to the power of relaxation and suggestion, this really does pay off. I found myself feeling - and thinking - more positive after the very first listen, with repeat listenings only serving to reinforce this new frame of mind. Recommended.

learn to live it, 05 Feb 2005
This CD works - if you let it.
If you have never heard Glenn Harrold, then believe me his accent takes some getting used to. However just allow yourself to be inducted by the "South London Geeza", and you will reap the rewards. As with all of his CDs, the scripts are first rate, and very positive. His use of voice is certainly quite effective, and the background music is well edited and not too anoyingly new age.
If you buy and listen to this then you are aiming to reprogram your established thought patterns. In my experience this is not something that happens overnight, and is certainly harder if you dont allow yourself to relax into the process. After a month of repeated listening it is now really working many subtle wonders.
I highly recommend this CD as well as all of his others. I find them all very relaxing and positive experiences. As an aside, I would also highly recommend Nick Kemp's CDs which are very different but equally enjoyable.

Great ideas on positive people management, 20 Oct 2001
Monty Roberts has demonstrated to the world his ability to tame wild horses through friendly and non-violent means. In thi