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 Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY!
We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting.
My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends.
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Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
by Mandy Simons
Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
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Product Description
Ekhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. And while this message may not seem stunningly original or fresh, Tolle's clear writing, supportive voice and enthusiasm make this an excellent manual for anyone who's ever wondered what exactly "living in the now" means. Foremost, Tolle is a world-class teacher, able to explain complicated concepts in concrete language. More importantly, within a chapter of reading this book, readers are already holding the world in a different container--more conscious of how thoughts and emotions get in the way of their ability to live in genuine peace and happiness. Tolle packs a lot of information and inspirational ideas into The Power of Now. (Topics include the source of Chi, enlightened relationships, creative use of the mind, impermanence and the cycle of life.) Thankfully, he's added markers that symbolise "break time". This is when readers should close the book and mull over what they just read. As a result, The Power of Now reads like the highly acclaimed A Course in Miracles--a spiritual guidebook that has the potential to inspire just as many study groups and change just as many lives for the better. --Gail Hudson
Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
by Mandy Simons
Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
A must read..., 02 Nov 2008
Well worth the few pounds on a life changing book and completely ignore the 1 star reviews. Read it slowly and let the words absorb into your very being.
Happiness is the Road, 31 Oct 2008
This book focuses on the way in which living 'in the present' is the road to true happiness.
If you enjoyed the book, you simply have to check out Marillion's recent CD, Happiness is the Road - Essence, which takes Tolle's work and builds it into a stunning musical journey.
Tolle's ideas, clearly explained in this book, although sometimes simplistic, provide a strong basis for achieving enlightenment - and are closely aligned with many principles of buddhist philosophy.
The book and CD are both recommended!
please avoid this book, 31 Oct 2008
Please avoid this book.
First of all, he is claiming to be an 'enlightened being' and yet to me it seems quite egotistical to start your book by declaring your own superiority and wisdom in this way. To my mind this device exposes a need to justify himself in the absence of having any relevant qualifications. Being the centre of so much attention through the publication of bestsellers also comes across as somewhat materialist to me, not what I would expect from the enlightened one.
This book is not original. It describes a philosophy based on the central claims of many doctrines associated with eastern mysticism. These are all wonderful, colourful, exciting and maybe even true. But Eckhart Tolle is cheating by presenting himself as a teacher, because he is not. He is just saying what he has learnt from his own study in this area, and then branding himself as a source.
I believe this is called hypocrisy. A well respected and more authentic spiritual master once said that 'God forgives everything except hypocrisy'.
So if you are not sure about buying his book. I recommend you avoid it. Go and do something you enjoy instead.
If you want an overcompicated book about Jesus, buy this....., 25 Oct 2008
This book:
* repeats itself over and over.
* has a lecturing style (at one point he tells the reader "please just listen").
* massively over-complicates the issues
* is a book about Christ and God (although he doesn't get to the Christ bit until half way through the book, when the reader suddenly realises that this is a religious text).
Not recommended.
essential reading, 10 Sep 2008
This book has been written in the sense of a dialogue between master and disciple reminicent of the Corpus Hermeticum. However in this case the reader may or may not find these imposed questions useful or, indeed annoying... This is a book which is either going to hit a chord, or will seem like utter nonsense. From my point of view as an average reader, I have found it very important because it explores concepts of this mind/ego (a double) which is inside of each person which needs confronting in someway. I think this book is must read for anyone who feels they are on a spiritual path, because fundementally (and in my limited understanding) the awareness of the 'double' and the fission of dark and light is inevitable along this path. If this is really the case, then this book should be seen as essential reading.
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Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
by Mandy Simons
Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
A must read..., 02 Nov 2008
Well worth the few pounds on a life changing book and completely ignore the 1 star reviews. Read it slowly and let the words absorb into your very being.
Happiness is the Road, 31 Oct 2008
This book focuses on the way in which living 'in the present' is the road to true happiness.
If you enjoyed the book, you simply have to check out Marillion's recent CD, Happiness is the Road - Essence, which takes Tolle's work and builds it into a stunning musical journey.
Tolle's ideas, clearly explained in this book, although sometimes simplistic, provide a strong basis for achieving enlightenment - and are closely aligned with many principles of buddhist philosophy.
The book and CD are both recommended!
please avoid this book, 31 Oct 2008
Please avoid this book.
First of all, he is claiming to be an 'enlightened being' and yet to me it seems quite egotistical to start your book by declaring your own superiority and wisdom in this way. To my mind this device exposes a need to justify himself in the absence of having any relevant qualifications. Being the centre of so much attention through the publication of bestsellers also comes across as somewhat materialist to me, not what I would expect from the enlightened one.
This book is not original. It describes a philosophy based on the central claims of many doctrines associated with eastern mysticism. These are all wonderful, colourful, exciting and maybe even true. But Eckhart Tolle is cheating by presenting himself as a teacher, because he is not. He is just saying what he has learnt from his own study in this area, and then branding himself as a source.
I believe this is called hypocrisy. A well respected and more authentic spiritual master once said that 'God forgives everything except hypocrisy'.
So if you are not sure about buying his book. I recommend you avoid it. Go and do something you enjoy instead.
If you want an overcompicated book about Jesus, buy this....., 25 Oct 2008
This book:
* repeats itself over and over.
* has a lecturing style (at one point he tells the reader "please just listen").
* massively over-complicates the issues
* is a book about Christ and God (although he doesn't get to the Christ bit until half way through the book, when the reader suddenly realises that this is a religious text).
Not recommended.
essential reading, 10 Sep 2008
This book has been written in the sense of a dialogue between master and disciple reminicent of the Corpus Hermeticum. However in this case the reader may or may not find these imposed questions useful or, indeed annoying... This is a book which is either going to hit a chord, or will seem like utter nonsense. From my point of view as an average reader, I have found it very important because it explores concepts of this mind/ego (a double) which is inside of each person which needs confronting in someway. I think this book is must read for anyone who feels they are on a spiritual path, because fundementally (and in my limited understanding) the awareness of the 'double' and the fission of dark and light is inevitable along this path. If this is really the case, then this book should be seen as essential reading.
A great guy for anyone, not just the perplexed, 20 Oct 2008
This is a great book for anyone, not just anyone who's either perplexed by people skills or a professional who regularly handles people.
I first read it when I was about seventeen or eighteen and it did seem just as hokey as the title might suggests, it is a presentation of a series of truisms with lots of anecdotal stories told well.
The chapters break down into handling people (for instance dont critize, condemn or complain), how to become likeable (smiling, listening skills, recalling people's names, developing a sincere interest in others and making them feel important), how to win people to your way of thinking (lots of great ways of phrasing, paraphrasing and rephrasing dialogue to get a win-win situation) and finally being a leader, how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.
Now the skills outlined in the book might come as a surprise or you might realise that you've been using them all along but never been that conscious or deliberate about it before.
Whether you intend to put it all into practice or not its still a great read, Carnegie answers his critics in a way in the course of the book by describing how salesmen would attend his lectures looking for a sort of machavellian insight and he told them it wasnt possible to rival sincere interest in others, neat tricks wouldnt cut it with people.
So, I opened by saying its a great book for the general reader, and it is, however I'd also say its a great book for professionals, I've read lots of other books on communication and interpersonal skills, including psychological, therapist and motivational texts and this remains among the best. Although I doubt you'll find it on any university reading list.
Who Else Wants to Change Their Life?, 20 Sep 2008
I'll be honest. I avoided this book for years. Then one day a good friend of mine (who is a Cambridge Rocket Scientist turned Internet Consulting Millionaire) said "hey did you ever read How to Win Friends and Influence People, that book's just amazing, it's hard to think of one that's better!" now put in the context that I've seen this guy pay $5000 for a book and MP3 course I naturally stopped and said "So you're telling me that this $20 or something book is worth more than the $5000 dollar courses? c'mon? no way?!?". He says: "Pretty much. Yes." As you can imagine I was then on tender hooks waiting for this to arrive I dove right in and....three months later (I do have a day job to hold down and kids to amuse ;-) ) Wow!...no...WOW! this is THE book. I've read a lot of self help books: this is the one that really changed my life. And not in weird unmeasurable ways, the advice in this book has been of practical help in almost all aspect of my life, personal, professional and social. Forget the myths around this book, buy it, read it and reap the rewards.
Essential Reading, 20 Sep 2008
For years, I'd tended to avoid this book, partly because of its cheesy title. However, I eventually decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. Carnegie's great skill is in identifying how we can grow ourselves by interacting in a correct, responsible, ethical and empathetic way with other human beings.
Strange thing is, when you read much of his advice, you realise you knew it anyway, but that you'd somehow forgotten to act in that way. Simply try to act like some of his suggestions for a few days and I guarantee you will feel small but perceptible positive differences, and with the rise of the web and email, we are probably more in need of this advice than ever before. Give this book a try and I believe you won't be disappointed.
The Greatest Self-Help Book, 05 Sep 2008
This is the daddy of all self-help books. Many others are based on its teachings but few can match it for the clarity of its wonderful advice. It will build your self-confidence and help you to understand, relate to and influence other people. Highly recommended.
A Timeless Classic with Principles that still apply today!, 23 Aug 2008
Although originally written several decades ago, Carnegie's masterpiece about human
relationships is still timeless classic with principles that still apply today. Carnegie crafts a classic on how to create strong and lasting relationships with others through listening, understanding, and emphasizing. He argues convincingly that the way to win friends and influence people is to make others feel important. Simple, but extremely powerful concepts!
The Re-Discovery of Common Sense: A Guide To: The Lost Art of Critical Thinking
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Product Description
According to Steven R. Covey, to live with security and wisdom, and to have the power to take advantages of the opportunities that change creates, we need fairness, integrity, honesty and human dignity. Quite a tall order when you consider that most of us live our lives in a permanent state of flux, questioning our ideals and values and fighting a daily battle with the lack of self-confidence that stops us from taking risks of any kind. But, in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey manages to make it sound as if changing the way we look at ourselves and the world around us so that we can become more successful both personally and professionally an absolute doddle. He defines the "habits" as "the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire" and states that the "Seven Habits" of the title are not mutually exclusive, but rather when developed together help to form a well-rounded, sensitive, confident and effective human being. As with many self-help books, much of what you read here is based on basic common sense and can at times be irritatingly obvious. However, what Covey manages to do so successfully is to break down the barriers which prevent all of us from taking a long hard look at ourselves, and then gradually introduces new rules which allow us to move first from dependence to independence and then towards the ultimate goal of interdependence. But of course, the only real way to test the value of The Habits--be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think "win/win", seek first to understand and then to be understood, synergise, sharpen the saw-- is to work on them. This book is as good as any place to start on the road to self-awareness and self-improvement in the workplace and in the home without becoming too irritatingly smug and self-satisfied. --Susan Harrison
Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
by Mandy Simons
Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
A must read..., 02 Nov 2008
Well worth the few pounds on a life changing book and completely ignore the 1 star reviews. Read it slowly and let the words absorb into your very being.
Happiness is the Road, 31 Oct 2008
This book focuses on the way in which living 'in the present' is the road to true happiness.
If you enjoyed the book, you simply have to check out Marillion's recent CD, Happiness is the Road - Essence, which takes Tolle's work and builds it into a stunning musical journey.
Tolle's ideas, clearly explained in this book, although sometimes simplistic, provide a strong basis for achieving enlightenment - and are closely aligned with many principles of buddhist philosophy.
The book and CD are both recommended!
please avoid this book, 31 Oct 2008
Please avoid this book.
First of all, he is claiming to be an 'enlightened being' and yet to me it seems quite egotistical to start your book by declaring your own superiority and wisdom in this way. To my mind this device exposes a need to justify himself in the absence of having any relevant qualifications. Being the centre of so much attention through the publication of bestsellers also comes across as somewhat materialist to me, not what I would expect from the enlightened one.
This book is not original. It describes a philosophy based on the central claims of many doctrines associated with eastern mysticism. These are all wonderful, colourful, exciting and maybe even true. But Eckhart Tolle is cheating by presenting himself as a teacher, because he is not. He is just saying what he has learnt from his own study in this area, and then branding himself as a source.
I believe this is called hypocrisy. A well respected and more authentic spiritual master once said that 'God forgives everything except hypocrisy'.
So if you are not sure about buying his book. I recommend you avoid it. Go and do something you enjoy instead.
If you want an overcompicated book about Jesus, buy this....., 25 Oct 2008
This book:
* repeats itself over and over.
* has a lecturing style (at one point he tells the reader "please just listen").
* massively over-complicates the issues
* is a book about Christ and God (although he doesn't get to the Christ bit until half way through the book, when the reader suddenly realises that this is a religious text).
Not recommended.
essential reading, 10 Sep 2008
This book has been written in the sense of a dialogue between master and disciple reminicent of the Corpus Hermeticum. However in this case the reader may or may not find these imposed questions useful or, indeed annoying... This is a book which is either going to hit a chord, or will seem like utter nonsense. From my point of view as an average reader, I have found it very important because it explores concepts of this mind/ego (a double) which is inside of each person which needs confronting in someway. I think this book is must read for anyone who feels they are on a spiritual path, because fundementally (and in my limited understanding) the awareness of the 'double' and the fission of dark and light is inevitable along this path. If this is really the case, then this book should be seen as essential reading.
A great guy for anyone, not just the perplexed, 20 Oct 2008
This is a great book for anyone, not just anyone who's either perplexed by people skills or a professional who regularly handles people.
I first read it when I was about seventeen or eighteen and it did seem just as hokey as the title might suggests, it is a presentation of a series of truisms with lots of anecdotal stories told well.
The chapters break down into handling people (for instance dont critize, condemn or complain), how to become likeable (smiling, listening skills, recalling people's names, developing a sincere interest in others and making them feel important), how to win people to your way of thinking (lots of great ways of phrasing, paraphrasing and rephrasing dialogue to get a win-win situation) and finally being a leader, how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.
Now the skills outlined in the book might come as a surprise or you might realise that you've been using them all along but never been that conscious or deliberate about it before.
Whether you intend to put it all into practice or not its still a great read, Carnegie answers his critics in a way in the course of the book by describing how salesmen would attend his lectures looking for a sort of machavellian insight and he told them it wasnt possible to rival sincere interest in others, neat tricks wouldnt cut it with people.
So, I opened by saying its a great book for the general reader, and it is, however I'd also say its a great book for professionals, I've read lots of other books on communication and interpersonal skills, including psychological, therapist and motivational texts and this remains among the best. Although I doubt you'll find it on any university reading list.
Who Else Wants to Change Their Life?, 20 Sep 2008
I'll be honest. I avoided this book for years. Then one day a good friend of mine (who is a Cambridge Rocket Scientist turned Internet Consulting Millionaire) said "hey did you ever read How to Win Friends and Influence People, that book's just amazing, it's hard to think of one that's better!" now put in the context that I've seen this guy pay $5000 for a book and MP3 course I naturally stopped and said "So you're telling me that this $20 or something book is worth more than the $5000 dollar courses? c'mon? no way?!?". He says: "Pretty much. Yes." As you can imagine I was then on tender hooks waiting for this to arrive I dove right in and....three months later (I do have a day job to hold down and kids to amuse ;-) ) Wow!...no...WOW! this is THE book. I've read a lot of self help books: this is the one that really changed my life. And not in weird unmeasurable ways, the advice in this book has been of practical help in almost all aspect of my life, personal, professional and social. Forget the myths around this book, buy it, read it and reap the rewards.
Essential Reading, 20 Sep 2008
For years, I'd tended to avoid this book, partly because of its cheesy title. However, I eventually decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. Carnegie's great skill is in identifying how we can grow ourselves by interacting in a correct, responsible, ethical and empathetic way with other human beings.
Strange thing is, when you read much of his advice, you realise you knew it anyway, but that you'd somehow forgotten to act in that way. Simply try to act like some of his suggestions for a few days and I guarantee you will feel small but perceptible positive differences, and with the rise of the web and email, we are probably more in need of this advice than ever before. Give this book a try and I believe you won't be disappointed.
The Greatest Self-Help Book, 05 Sep 2008
This is the daddy of all self-help books. Many others are based on its teachings but few can match it for the clarity of its wonderful advice. It will build your self-confidence and help you to understand, relate to and influence other people. Highly recommended.
A Timeless Classic with Principles that still apply today!, 23 Aug 2008
Although originally written several decades ago, Carnegie's masterpiece about human
relationships is still timeless classic with principles that still apply today. Carnegie crafts a classic on how to create strong and lasting relationships with others through listening, understanding, and emphasizing. He argues convincingly that the way to win friends and influence people is to make others feel important. Simple, but extremely powerful concepts!
The Re-Discovery of Common Sense: A Guide To: The Lost Art of Critical Thinking
An Exceptional Book, 20 Nov 2008
In browsing my book shelf I came upon and then found myself rereading this incredibly simple yet profound book. The principles and ideas Stephen writes about are truly ways to discover how to live your life as the person you want to be. I especially found the section where Stephen writes about how powerful unexamined attitudes and perceptions influence how I react toward situations and others. Once I started looking at my predetermined thoughts...those same situations became less mundane and irritating. My experiences became more authentic, meaningful and enjoyable instantaneously. Stephen writes of this as a "paradigm shift", where our attitudes and behaviors, left unexamined, shape how we feel and act in our life in mechanical patterns.
Two authors that have also inspired and ignited my passion for living a magnificent life are Ariel & Shya Kane. The Kanes works: "Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment", "Working on Yourself Doesn't Work: The 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Life","How to Create a Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life: The 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life" and their internet radio show "Being Here" on Voiceamerica.com are all indispensable sources I turn to in supporting my well-being in all areas of my life. I highly recommend the Kanes and Stephen Covey classic, timeless book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People."
Live by Principles, not Personality, 31 Oct 2008
I don't think A Customer read it properly. You define 'effective' as the ability to produce YOUR excellent results (whatever they are) consistently - a balance of production and production capability. YOU also define your own happiness and seek it out - effectively. The rest of the book provides a systematic way of doing so, in a way that recognises that we achieve NOTHING meaningful without the
input, or for the benefit,of other people.
This is one of the two GREATEST books on personal development I have ever read. It shows how recognition of the principles that guide our lives WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT can enhance rather than defeat our lives, instead of playing to the personality 'I can do what I like' ethic that defeats so many politicians, celebrities and other powerful people.
A hard, but worthwhile read., 13 Oct 2008
Its easy to see why this book has been so successful for so long.
This is the first `Self Improvement' book I ever read. At the time, I was stuck in a dead end job with very few prospects thoroughly miserable.
This book showed me that life is not about `have too's' and `must do's' but about `choices'. Its only when you realise this that you can truly take hold of your life.
Habit 2 which covers time management is truly inspirational.
Since reading this book in 2002, I have more that tripled my income and halved the amount of hours a week I spend doing so.
This book is a hard slog of a read sometimes but stick with it and it may change your life!
Not an E-Z read., 08 Oct 2008
For a personal change book, I found it rather a hard read. The book to me is, well, complicated. The seven habits make sense and all, but the whole process seems to involve making layers of change, with each layer being a whole book in itself. Not a very quick read, and I'm not saying its not worthwhile and all, it's more a book that you have to be willing to work with. Readers who like less sophisticated personal change books might enjoy The Sixty-Second Motivator.
Nonsense of the highest order, 25 Aug 2008
While working for a previous company, I was sent on this course (which included reading the book). I'm sure the company meant well, but my experience of the "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", was essentially teaching people how to suck eggs.
Stephen R. Covey has made a personal fortune out of selling what most critical thinkers realise for themselves at an early age. His writings are bland and uninteresting, telling us what we already know in a language barely recognisable as English. "Synergize", "leverage", "win-win"; I'm sure you've heard them before. They are all here. Do they mean anything? In my humble opinion - not in the slightest.
Steer clear.
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Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
by Mandy Simons
Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
A must read..., 02 Nov 2008
Well worth the few pounds on a life changing book and completely ignore the 1 star reviews. Read it slowly and let the words absorb into your very being.
Happiness is the Road, 31 Oct 2008
This book focuses on the way in which living 'in the present' is the road to true happiness.
If you enjoyed the book, you simply have to check out Marillion's recent CD, Happiness is the Road - Essence, which takes Tolle's work and builds it into a stunning musical journey.
Tolle's ideas, clearly explained in this book, although sometimes simplistic, provide a strong basis for achieving enlightenment - and are closely aligned with many principles of buddhist philosophy.
The book and CD are both recommended!
please avoid this book, 31 Oct 2008
Please avoid this book.
First of all, he is claiming to be an 'enlightened being' and yet to me it seems quite egotistical to start your book by declaring your own superiority and wisdom in this way. To my mind this device exposes a need to justify himself in the absence of having any relevant qualifications. Being the centre of so much attention through the publication of bestsellers also comes across as somewhat materialist to me, not what I would expect from the enlightened one.
This book is not original. It describes a philosophy based on the central claims of many doctrines associated with eastern mysticism. These are all wonderful, colourful, exciting and maybe even true. But Eckhart Tolle is cheating by presenting himself as a teacher, because he is not. He is just saying what he has learnt from his own study in this area, and then branding himself as a source.
I believe this is called hypocrisy. A well respected and more authentic spiritual master once said that 'God forgives everything except hypocrisy'.
So if you are not sure about buying his book. I recommend you avoid it. Go and do something you enjoy instead.
If you want an overcompicated book about Jesus, buy this....., 25 Oct 2008
This book:
* repeats itself over and over.
* has a lecturing style (at one point he tells the reader "please just listen").
* massively over-complicates the issues
* is a book about Christ and God (although he doesn't get to the Christ bit until half way through the book, when the reader suddenly realises that this is a religious text).
Not recommended.
essential reading, 10 Sep 2008
This book has been written in the sense of a dialogue between master and disciple reminicent of the Corpus Hermeticum. However in this case the reader may or may not find these imposed questions useful or, indeed annoying... This is a book which is either going to hit a chord, or will seem like utter nonsense. From my point of view as an average reader, I have found it very important because it explores concepts of this mind/ego (a double) which is inside of each person which needs confronting in someway. I think this book is must read for anyone who feels they are on a spiritual path, because fundementally (and in my limited understanding) the awareness of the 'double' and the fission of dark and light is inevitable along this path. If this is really the case, then this book should be seen as essential reading.
A great guy for anyone, not just the perplexed, 20 Oct 2008
This is a great book for anyone, not just anyone who's either perplexed by people skills or a professional who regularly handles people.
I first read it when I was about seventeen or eighteen and it did seem just as hokey as the title might suggests, it is a presentation of a series of truisms with lots of anecdotal stories told well.
The chapters break down into handling people (for instance dont critize, condemn or complain), how to become likeable (smiling, listening skills, recalling people's names, developing a sincere interest in others and making them feel important), how to win people to your way of thinking (lots of great ways of phrasing, paraphrasing and rephrasing dialogue to get a win-win situation) and finally being a leader, how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.
Now the skills outlined in the book might come as a surprise or you might realise that you've been using them all along but never been that conscious or deliberate about it before.
Whether you intend to put it all into practice or not its still a great read, Carnegie answers his critics in a way in the course of the book by describing how salesmen would attend his lectures looking for a sort of machavellian insight and he told them it wasnt possible to rival sincere interest in others, neat tricks wouldnt cut it with people.
So, I opened by saying its a great book for the general reader, and it is, however I'd also say its a great book for professionals, I've read lots of other books on communication and interpersonal skills, including psychological, therapist and motivational texts and this remains among the best. Although I doubt you'll find it on any university reading list.
Who Else Wants to Change Their Life?, 20 Sep 2008
I'll be honest. I avoided this book for years. Then one day a good friend of mine (who is a Cambridge Rocket Scientist turned Internet Consulting Millionaire) said "hey did you ever read How to Win Friends and Influence People, that book's just amazing, it's hard to think of one that's better!" now put in the context that I've seen this guy pay $5000 for a book and MP3 course I naturally stopped and said "So you're telling me that this $20 or something book is worth more than the $5000 dollar courses? c'mon? no way?!?". He says: "Pretty much. Yes." As you can imagine I was then on tender hooks waiting for this to arrive I dove right in and....three months later (I do have a day job to hold down and kids to amuse ;-) ) Wow!...no...WOW! this is THE book. I've read a lot of self help books: this is the one that really changed my life. And not in weird unmeasurable ways, the advice in this book has been of practical help in almost all aspect of my life, personal, professional and social. Forget the myths around this book, buy it, read it and reap the rewards.
Essential Reading, 20 Sep 2008
For years, I'd tended to avoid this book, partly because of its cheesy title. However, I eventually decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. Carnegie's great skill is in identifying how we can grow ourselves by interacting in a correct, responsible, ethical and empathetic way with other human beings.
Strange thing is, when you read much of his advice, you realise you knew it anyway, but that you'd somehow forgotten to act in that way. Simply try to act like some of his suggestions for a few days and I guarantee you will feel small but perceptible positive differences, and with the rise of the web and email, we are probably more in need of this advice than ever before. Give this book a try and I believe you won't be disappointed.
The Greatest Self-Help Book, 05 Sep 2008
This is the daddy of all self-help books. Many others are based on its teachings but few can match it for the clarity of its wonderful advice. It will build your self-confidence and help you to understand, relate to and influence other people. Highly recommended.
A Timeless Classic with Principles that still apply today!, 23 Aug 2008
Although originally written several decades ago, Carnegie's masterpiece about human
relationships is still timeless classic with principles that still apply today. Carnegie crafts a classic on how to create strong and lasting relationships with others through listening, understanding, and emphasizing. He argues convincingly that the way to win friends and influence people is to make others feel important. Simple, but extremely powerful concepts!
The Re-Discovery of Common Sense: A Guide To: The Lost Art of Critical Thinking
An Exceptional Book, 20 Nov 2008
In browsing my book shelf I came upon and then found myself rereading this incredibly simple yet profound book. The principles and ideas Stephen writes about are truly ways to discover how to live your life as the person you want to be. I especially found the section where Stephen writes about how powerful unexamined attitudes and perceptions influence how I react toward situations and others. Once I started looking at my predetermined thoughts...those same situations became less mundane and irritating. My experiences became more authentic, meaningful and enjoyable instantaneously. Stephen writes of this as a "paradigm shift", where our attitudes and behaviors, left unexamined, shape how we feel and act in our life in mechanical patterns.
Two authors that have also inspired and ignited my passion for living a magnificent life are Ariel & Shya Kane. The Kanes works: "Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment", "Working on Yourself Doesn't Work: The 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Life","How to Create a Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life: The 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life" and their internet radio show "Being Here" on Voiceamerica.com are all indispensable sources I turn to in supporting my well-being in all areas of my life. I highly recommend the Kanes and Stephen Covey classic, timeless book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People."
Live by Principles, not Personality, 31 Oct 2008
I don't think A Customer read it properly. You define 'effective' as the ability to produce YOUR excellent results (whatever they are) consistently - a balance of production and production capability. YOU also define your own happiness and seek it out - effectively. The rest of the book provides a systematic way of doing so, in a way that recognises that we achieve NOTHING meaningful without the
input, or for the benefit,of other people.
This is one of the two GREATEST books on personal development I have ever read. It shows how recognition of the principles that guide our lives WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT can enhance rather than defeat our lives, instead of playing to the personality 'I can do what I like' ethic that defeats so many politicians, celebrities and other powerful people.
A hard, but worthwhile read., 13 Oct 2008
Its easy to see why this book has been so successful for so long.
This is the first `Self Improvement' book I ever read. At the time, I was stuck in a dead end job with very few prospects thoroughly miserable.
This book showed me that life is not about `have too's' and `must do's' but about `choices'. Its only when you realise this that you can truly take hold of your life.
Habit 2 which covers time management is truly inspirational.
Since reading this book in 2002, I have more that tripled my income and halved the amount of hours a week I spend doing so.
This book is a hard slog of a read sometimes but stick with it and it may change your life!
Not an E-Z read., 08 Oct 2008
For a personal change book, I found it rather a hard read. The book to me is, well, complicated. The seven habits make sense and all, but the whole process seems to involve making layers of change, with each layer being a whole book in itself. Not a very quick read, and I'm not saying its not worthwhile and all, it's more a book that you have to be willing to work with. Readers who like less sophisticated personal change books might enjoy The Sixty-Second Motivator.
Nonsense of the highest order, 25 Aug 2008
While working for a previous company, I was sent on this course (which included reading the book). I'm sure the company meant well, but my experience of the "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", was essentially teaching people how to suck eggs.
Stephen R. Covey has made a personal fortune out of selling what most critical thinkers realise for themselves at an early age. His writings are bland and uninteresting, telling us what we already know in a language barely recognisable as English. "Synergize", "leverage", "win-win"; I'm sure you've heard them before. They are all here. Do they mean anything? In my humble opinion - not in the slightest.
Steer clear.
appalling, 11 Oct 2008
I was hoping to find something of use in Twiggy's book - but it's nothing but a random, waffly set of anecdotes with lots of advertisements for products and clothes shops. If you're looking for real advice - about what suits your shape, what colours to wear past a certain age, some thoughts on styles - look somewhere else.
I returned my copy, because I was so disappointed - and thumbs up to Amazon for letting me!
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Customer Reviews
Is it coincidence, or has this book really made my life with kids better!?, 16 Oct 2008
I bought this book about three months ago after a particularly bad week with my boys (aged 2 and 4). A lot of tantrums, whining, shouting, crying (on all parts) plus the anxiety of starting school made me feel I really needed to change something. I had read an earlier book by the same author (Siblings without Rivalry) and liked the style so gave it a go.
The first few weeks were a difficult transition. Trying the new methods, yet in the back of mind doubting them, I kept reverting back to the usual methods (after all naughty steps and reward charts seem so popular these days). Again - a difficult week and I gave it another go.
After four weeks of effort on my part we finally started getting somewhere and slowly but surely their suggested behaviour and responses became more natural.Three months on, I can honestly say we all have a much better relationship. I still shout (which thankfully is `allowed' in this book) - but situations don't spiral out of control... I am angry about a situation, I suggest better options and we all carry on. I don't bombard my son with questions about school - `who did you play with', `did you eat lunch' and yet he chats much more readily. My two year old still has tantrums and a very determined personality; but even he has softened and seems to respond much better.
Fingers crossed it isn't coincidence or a phase and I have really have made things better!
Sanity Found - All Parents Should Read, 13 Sep 2008
I was looking for some serious guides on my children - this book put it all into perspective and gave me some wonderful guidelines - I've recommended it to loads of friends and some even finish the title before me and smile noting the help it provided. GET THIS BOOK TODAY! We can't get enough , 18 Feb 2008
This book is excellent. Parents, who want lasting discipline, in the true sense of the word [teaching], look no further. As other reviewers have said, there is no quick fix. If that's what you are after, God help your kids!
As an author, I also found the techniques and suggestions easy to pick up and assimilate.
It is relevant for school, home and life in general.
We can't get enough of this kind of material.
Useful book and relevant but no masterpiece!, 20 Dec 2007
I am a mother of three boys aged 2, 4 and 5. Getting them to cooperate is sometimes such a challenge. And it is difficult to focus attention to three at a time so I often have the feeling that one will cry, no matter what I do or don't do. I bought this book because I was looking for ways to improve my communication with my elder boys (aged 4 and 5) who sometimes can seem so unreasonable and so defiant to me and their father. The book has helped me reacting differently and communicating comfort better to my children but I found it a touch too simplistic. I need not do my homework and see drawings to understand what this is all about. Examples are useful but I need not read ten very similar examples to get the message. It seemed to me that it was bit of a school text rather than a book aimed at grown up parents. Moreover, most examples focused on elder children (e.g. aged 8, 10 or older) contrary to what I expected, i.e. advice for communicating with toddlers and pre schoolers. In conclusion, I do recommend the book as a useful guide to improving communication with your children but it is certainly not the best book I have ever read on parenting. My new bible, 29 Oct 2007
Really useful book.
I read it over and over again.
Excellent tips for keeping kids motivated and behaving well.
I have recommended this book to all my friends. loads of great pointers, 18 Feb 2008
How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.
nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book. P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!, 22 Aug 2007
Another new bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
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Great books! The best book of its genre, 05 Sep 2006
I've read various books on developing interpersonal skills, and this is the best of the lot by far. I was really surprised with how comprehensive, detailed, and indeed practical the advice given in this book is, you certainly get your money's worth. Most books on this subject seem a little lightweight, recycled, and you get the feeling you've read it all before in magazine articles etc. The only other book that comes close to this I think is the classic 'How to win friends and influence people', but I get the impression that everybody has read this book now and understands the principles described in it. 'How to talk to anybody' goes beyond this, providing the practical advice that will give you that extra edge you need in the modern world. I've certainly found that it has helped me a great deal. reader, loughborough, UK, 25 Jun 2006
Y'all this book is awesome! It just gets better by the page. Most of the things written in it are things you already know but didn't necessarily consider important. It doesn't just tell you what they are but how to use it, and it also gives a few examples of the writer's personal experiences to enable you visualise where the idea comes from. If you're a shy person like me who's dying to comfortably talk to someone new you meet or are trying to get the attention of your friends and colleagues...then this is definately the book for you. Personally the rating here isn't enough to convey how good the book is, or maybe i'm just crap at communicating...but you'll never know if you do not read the book! How to Talk to Anyone is Fantastic, 14 Aug 2005
Hey there, I absolutely loved this book. I still read it every so often and it has given me confidence in situations where I would be totally at loss. The best aspect of this book is that it is very clear to understand and practical to accomplish the techniques. It has also given me a greater understanding of how inadequate the social skills of those around me are... And how superior!! The people that I once thought confident became social losers. And those I thought were incapable became my role models. 5 stars goes to this book for teaching me social skills I had never been taught.
You see, as smart as I am, I never finished GCSE's and my life was very anti social before marrying my husband who is a doctor. I tried to go to university, I got in based on my SAT's in America, but never felt very comfortable around people. Obviously, after marriage, I was caught in a whirlwind of doctor cliques... and being the wife of a doctor. I had no idea how to handle the situation.
The techniques in this book gave me the confidence that I too could become a social butterfly even around the most educated of people.
Thank you very much Leil
A must read..., 02 Nov 2008
Well worth the few pounds on a life changing book and completely ignore the 1 star reviews. Read it slowly and let the words absorb into your very being.
Happiness is the Road, 31 Oct 2008
This book focuses on the way in which living 'in the present' is the road to true happiness.
If you enjoyed the book, you simply have to check out Marillion's recent CD, Happiness is the Road - Essence, which takes Tolle's work and builds it into a stunning musical journey.
Tolle's ideas, clearly explained in this book, although sometimes simplistic, provide a strong basis for achieving enlightenment - and are closely aligned with many principles of buddhist philosophy.
The book and CD are both recommended!
please avoid this book, 31 Oct 2008
Please avoid this book.
First of all, he is claiming to be an 'enlightened being' and yet to me it seems quite egotistical to start your book by declaring your own superiority and wisdom in this way. To my mind this device exposes a need to justify himself in the absence of having any relevant qualifications. Being the centre of so much attention through the publication of bestsellers also comes across as somewhat materialist to me, not what I would expect from the enlightened one.
This book is not original. It describes a philosophy based on the central claims of many doctrines associated with eastern mysticism. These are all wonderful, colourful, exciting and maybe even true. But Eckhart Tolle is cheating by presenting himself as a teacher, because he is not. He is just saying what he has learnt from his own study in this area, and then branding himself as a source.
I believe this is called hypocrisy. A well respected and more authentic spiritual master once said that 'God forgives everything except hypocrisy'.
So if you are not sure about buying his book. I recommend you avoid it. Go and do something you enjoy instead.
If you want an overcompicated book about Jesus, buy this....., 25 Oct 2008
This book:
* repeats itself over and over.
* has a lecturing style (at one point he tells the reader "please just listen").
* massively over-complicates the issues
* is a book about Christ and God (although he doesn't get to the Christ bit until half way through the book, when the reader suddenly realises that this is a religious text).
Not recommended.
essential reading, 10 Sep 2008
This book has been written in the sense of a dialogue between master and disciple reminicent of the Corpus Hermeticum. However in this case the reader may or may not find these imposed questions useful or, indeed annoying... This is a book which is either going to hit a chord, or will seem like utter nonsense. From my point of view as an average reader, I have found it very important because it explores concepts of this mind/ego (a double) which is inside of each person which needs confronting in someway. I think this book is must read for anyone who feels they are on a spiritual path, because fundementally (and in my limited understanding) the awareness of the 'double' and the fission of dark and light is inevitable along this path. If this is really the case, then this book should be seen as essential reading.
A great guy for anyone, not just the perplexed, 20 Oct 2008
This is a great book for anyone, not just anyone who's either perplexed by people skills or a professional who regularly handles people.
I first read it when I was about seventeen or eighteen and it did seem just as hokey as the title might suggests, it is a presentation of a series of truisms with lots of anecdotal stories told well.
The chapters break down into handling people (for instance dont critize, condemn or complain), how to become likeable (smiling, listening skills, recalling people's names, developing a sincere interest in others and making them feel important), how to win people to your way of thinking (lots of great ways of phrasing, paraphrasing and rephrasing dialogue to get a win-win situation) and finally being a leader, how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.
Now the skills outlined in the book might come as a surprise or you might realise that you've been using them all along but never been that conscious or deliberate about it before.
Whether you intend to put it all into practice or not its still a great read, Carnegie answers his critics in a way in the course of the book by describing how salesmen would attend his lectures looking for a sort of machavellian insight and he told them it wasnt possible to rival sincere interest in others, neat tricks wouldnt cut it with people.
So, I opened by saying its a great book for the general reader, and it is, however I'd also say its a great book for professionals, I've read lots of other books on communication and interpersonal skills, including psychological, therapist and motivational texts and this remains among the best. Although I doubt you'll find it on any university reading list.
Who Else Wants to Change Their Life?, 20 Sep 2008
I'll be honest. I avoided this book for years. Then one day a good friend of mine (who is a Cambridge Rocket Scientist turned Internet Consulting Millionaire) said "hey did you ever read How to Win Friends and Influence People, that book's just amazing, it's hard to think of one that's better!" now put in the context that I've seen this guy pay $5000 for a book and MP3 course I naturally stopped and said "So you're telling me that this $20 or something book is worth more than the $5000 dollar courses? c'mon? no way?!?". He says: "Pretty much. Yes." As you can imagine I was then on tender hooks waiting for this to arrive I dove right in and....three months later (I do have a day job to hold down and kids to amuse ;-) ) Wow!...no...WOW! this is THE book. I've read a lot of self help books: this is the one that really changed my life. And not in weird unmeasurable ways, the advice in this book has been of practical help in almost all aspect of my life, personal, professional and social. Forget the myths around this book, buy it, read it and reap the rewards.
Essential Reading, 20 Sep 2008
For years, I'd tended to avoid this book, partly because of its cheesy title. However, I eventually decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. Carnegie's great skill is in identifying how we can grow ourselves by interacting in a correct, responsible, ethical and empathetic way with other human beings.
Strange thing is, when you read much of his advice, you realise you knew it anyway, but that you'd somehow forgotten to act in that way. Simply try to act like some of his suggestions for a few days and I guarantee you will feel small but perceptible positive differences, and with the rise of the web and email, we are probably more in need of this advice than ever before. Give this book a try and I believe you won't be disappointed.
The Greatest Self-Help Book, 05 Sep 2008
This is the daddy of all self-help books. Many others are based on its teachings but few can match it for the clarity of its wonderful advice. It will build your self-confidence and help you to understand, relate to and influence other people. Highly recommended.
A Timeless Classic with Principles that still apply today!, 23 Aug 2008
Although originally written several decades ago, Carnegie's masterpiece about human
relationships is still timeless classic with principles that still apply today. Carnegie crafts | | |