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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing.
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Outing Yourself
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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing.
Everything you need to know in a difficult situation!, 04 Mar 2008
Signorile's 'Outing Yourself' is the perfect book for those who wish to reveal their personal persuasions to a wider audience. In this day and age, one's proclivities are not something that ought to be repressed from others through fear of ridicule, yet (even now) coming out remains an especially tough step for some people to take. This book covers everything you need to know in order to be emotionally prepared for the experience.
Personally, I came out at the age of seventeen. I had known my true feelings for some time by then, but it was still extremely difficult to be open about myself. Some people find their parents to be the hardest people to reveal the truth to but, in honesty, I believe that my parents always knew that I was somehow 'different' from my classmates. I suppose that I must have been about thirteen when I started to become aware of the fact that I stood out. I don't know whether it was the way I walked, the way I dressed or even the way I spoke, but it was already apparent to all that I wasn't quite like the other kids at school. Most of them were polite to me, but I never got to feel a real sense of belonging among them. Internally, I suffered a great deal of angst at this time. I had no doubts about who I really was inside, but I was fearful of what might happen if I let this be known. Would I be accepted for who I am? In the end, I decided that I had no choice but to reveal my inclinations, in order to be true to myself- regardless of the consequences!
Anyhow, as I say, it was at seventeen that I took this step. The first person I told was my best friend Kevin. My voice trembled a little as I began to speak and a tear soon started to form in the corner of my eye, as I struggled to stutter out the truth. Would he shun me? Worse still, would he become violent towards me? Well, fortunately, no! Despite the differing nature of our lifestyles, Kevin said that he was completely okay with my admission and gave me a huge hug! This inspired a huge boost of confidence and the very next day I gathered everyone around to make an announcement. "I'm straight!" I yelled at my ballet-school classmates, without so much as a trace of embarrassment in my voice!
Well, after that things weren't quite as simple as I had hoped. Once I had exposed myself as being (what the other boys referred to as) a 'breeder', I suppose that the onslaught of heterophobic bullying was inevitable. Even to this day, I almost find myself expecting to hear cries of 'Smelly hetero!' whenever I board a bus. Perhaps cruelest of all were the insults I had to endure after practise in the locker-room. One menacingly slender boy called Marc always used to scream 'You dirty fannypacker!' whenever I entered the showers (or, worse still, simply 'Cockdodger!'). Still, I felt no shame within myself and the other boys could do nothing to dampen my straight pride.
Be true to yourself!
Simple, straightforward issues to consider, 12 Mar 1999
I've never been much for touchy-feely self help style books. I loved Signorile's straightforward, just-the-facts presentation of what you should think about before coming out to friends, family, co-workers, etc. It was particularly helpful that he pointed out some of the ways parents typically react and what kinds of things I should think about before coming out... It was definitely a comforting addition to my support group of friends.
A must-read for those coming out, 11 Jun 1998
Outing Yourself was such a great resource for me in my coming out. I gave it to four friends and each found it to be equally important to them. Every one of us held on to it--sometimes literally, particularly when the going got rough-- and went back to it when we needed support. I still do so. That's because it breaks the process down into steps and none of us is never fully finished. We're always dealing with these issues. And Signorile understands that rather simplifying it. I don't know what I'd have done without the book.
A powerful and important guide, 08 Apr 1998
Outing Yourself was my introduction to the author, Michelangelo Signorile. It helped me immensely in my own coming out process, and led me to his other, more intellectual and gripping books. This book is for everyone who is dealing with coming out, and that means everyone, for we are always all coming out, as Mr. Signorile explains, every day.
A great starting point!, 29 Sep 1997
I great place to start when you are just coming out. Gives great examples, and it very straight forward. I recommend it!
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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing.
Everything you need to know in a difficult situation!, 04 Mar 2008
Signorile's 'Outing Yourself' is the perfect book for those who wish to reveal their personal persuasions to a wider audience. In this day and age, one's proclivities are not something that ought to be repressed from others through fear of ridicule, yet (even now) coming out remains an especially tough step for some people to take. This book covers everything you need to know in order to be emotionally prepared for the experience.
Personally, I came out at the age of seventeen. I had known my true feelings for some time by then, but it was still extremely difficult to be open about myself. Some people find their parents to be the hardest people to reveal the truth to but, in honesty, I believe that my parents always knew that I was somehow 'different' from my classmates. I suppose that I must have been about thirteen when I started to become aware of the fact that I stood out. I don't know whether it was the way I walked, the way I dressed or even the way I spoke, but it was already apparent to all that I wasn't quite like the other kids at school. Most of them were polite to me, but I never got to feel a real sense of belonging among them. Internally, I suffered a great deal of angst at this time. I had no doubts about who I really was inside, but I was fearful of what might happen if I let this be known. Would I be accepted for who I am? In the end, I decided that I had no choice but to reveal my inclinations, in order to be true to myself- regardless of the consequences!
Anyhow, as I say, it was at seventeen that I took this step. The first person I told was my best friend Kevin. My voice trembled a little as I began to speak and a tear soon started to form in the corner of my eye, as I struggled to stutter out the truth. Would he shun me? Worse still, would he become violent towards me? Well, fortunately, no! Despite the differing nature of our lifestyles, Kevin said that he was completely okay with my admission and gave me a huge hug! This inspired a huge boost of confidence and the very next day I gathered everyone around to make an announcement. "I'm straight!" I yelled at my ballet-school classmates, without so much as a trace of embarrassment in my voice!
Well, after that things weren't quite as simple as I had hoped. Once I had exposed myself as being (what the other boys referred to as) a 'breeder', I suppose that the onslaught of heterophobic bullying was inevitable. Even to this day, I almost find myself expecting to hear cries of 'Smelly hetero!' whenever I board a bus. Perhaps cruelest of all were the insults I had to endure after practise in the locker-room. One menacingly slender boy called Marc always used to scream 'You dirty fannypacker!' whenever I entered the showers (or, worse still, simply 'Cockdodger!'). Still, I felt no shame within myself and the other boys could do nothing to dampen my straight pride.
Be true to yourself!
Simple, straightforward issues to consider, 12 Mar 1999
I've never been much for touchy-feely self help style books. I loved Signorile's straightforward, just-the-facts presentation of what you should think about before coming out to friends, family, co-workers, etc. It was particularly helpful that he pointed out some of the ways parents typically react and what kinds of things I should think about before coming out... It was definitely a comforting addition to my support group of friends.
A must-read for those coming out, 11 Jun 1998
Outing Yourself was such a great resource for me in my coming out. I gave it to four friends and each found it to be equally important to them. Every one of us held on to it--sometimes literally, particularly when the going got rough-- and went back to it when we needed support. I still do so. That's because it breaks the process down into steps and none of us is never fully finished. We're always dealing with these issues. And Signorile understands that rather simplifying it. I don't know what I'd have done without the book.
A powerful and important guide, 08 Apr 1998
Outing Yourself was my introduction to the author, Michelangelo Signorile. It helped me immensely in my own coming out process, and led me to his other, more intellectual and gripping books. This book is for everyone who is dealing with coming out, and that means everyone, for we are always all coming out, as Mr. Signorile explains, every day.
A great starting point!, 29 Sep 1997
I great place to start when you are just coming out. Gives great examples, and it very straight forward. I recommend it!
I write this as a straight spouse, 02 Sep 2003
I bought this book just after my husband of 9 years told me he was leaving me and our two children for another man, I had hoped to find answers to my many questions,hope for the future,even a story of mixed orientation marriages that have worked. However while I read many pages thinking "thats just like us", the book, I felt, painted a bleak picture. One chapter, concentrating on the children on gay parents terrified me, told the tale of how the children, while being acepting of their dads sexuality in early childhood, rebelled and suffered metal illness in young adulthood-just what I didn't want to hear! I felt there should have been some stories of hope, because when you are in this situation, sometimes hope is all you have left
The other side of the closet, 07 Jun 2003
When my husband told me that he was gay my world fell apart. This book helped me realise that I was not the only one in the world that this had happened to and that my feelings were not abnormal. It was a life saver to read that other people were in the same situation and had got through it. It is such a relief to find help for me and my children. This book offers help for wives, husbands and partners of gays, lesbians and bisexuals from all different situations. The book offers lots of different thoughts and views by real people without telling you what to think ,feel or do. The book helped me though the pain when I had no one I could go to for help.
a bad book, 11 Oct 2002
As a straight man with a wife who has come out as a lesbian I can recommend anyone in a similar situation NOT to buy this book. The author as a heterosexual woman in the extreme cannot and does not understand the lesbian woman who does not share her pleasure. If a straight man and his lesbian wife want help to come to terms with this and perhaps save a marriage then read Carol Stocks book ¡Married Women Who Love Women¡. The Other Side of the Closet for me was a total waste of money and if this reflects her counseling then those couples have my sympathy.
A good analysis, 18 Jan 2000
This book is a good balance, analysing both the str8 and gay spouse's position as well as that of the children involved. I personally would recommend it to anyone who is going through the struggles involved. Im afraid it doesnt give much hope to those couples who are trying to make it work but has given me much input into what my wife is and has gone through and how I need to keep the channels of communication open both with her and our children.
Offers no hope, 10 Aug 1999
This book is so negative. The main message is that the marriage is doomed and that the straight spouse has to suffer while a dysfunctional bi/gay partner makes up his/her mind about where he wants to go. It also offers all sorts of solutions involving sex arrangements with spouses and gay partners - an anathema to most straight spouses. The book convinced me that I must leave my straight wife, because there was no way I could save my marriage. I went as far as putting our house up for sale and making financial arrangements. Then I realized the book was wrong. Over the years I had lost my ability to think with my heart. I had become depressed and used gay sex for comfort. I am trying to save my marriage, no thanks to the book. The book is useful to those couples who maybe didn't have real love there in the first place.
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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing.
Everything you need to know in a difficult situation!, 04 Mar 2008
Signorile's 'Outing Yourself' is the perfect book for those who wish to reveal their personal persuasions to a wider audience. In this day and age, one's proclivities are not something that ought to be repressed from others through fear of ridicule, yet (even now) coming out remains an especially tough step for some people to take. This book covers everything you need to know in order to be emotionally prepared for the experience.
Personally, I came out at the age of seventeen. I had known my true feelings for some time by then, but it was still extremely difficult to be open about myself. Some people find their parents to be the hardest people to reveal the truth to but, in honesty, I believe that my parents always knew that I was somehow 'different' from my classmates. I suppose that I must have been about thirteen when I started to become aware of the fact that I stood out. I don't know whether it was the way I walked, the way I dressed or even the way I spoke, but it was already apparent to all that I wasn't quite like the other kids at school. Most of them were polite to me, but I never got to feel a real sense of belonging among them. Internally, I suffered a great deal of angst at this time. I had no doubts about who I really was inside, but I was fearful of what might happen if I let this be known. Would I be accepted for who I am? In the end, I decided that I had no choice but to reveal my inclinations, in order to be true to myself- regardless of the consequences!
Anyhow, as I say, it was at seventeen that I took this step. The first person I told was my best friend Kevin. My voice trembled a little as I began to speak and a tear soon started to form in the corner of my eye, as I struggled to stutter out the truth. Would he shun me? Worse still, would he become violent towards me? Well, fortunately, no! Despite the differing nature of our lifestyles, Kevin said that he was completely okay with my admission and gave me a huge hug! This inspired a huge boost of confidence and the very next day I gathered everyone around to make an announcement. "I'm straight!" I yelled at my ballet-school classmates, without so much as a trace of embarrassment in my voice!
Well, after that things weren't quite as simple as I had hoped. Once I had exposed myself as being (what the other boys referred to as) a 'breeder', I suppose that the onslaught of heterophobic bullying was inevitable. Even to this day, I almost find myself expecting to hear cries of 'Smelly hetero!' whenever I board a bus. Perhaps cruelest of all were the insults I had to endure after practise in the locker-room. One menacingly slender boy called Marc always used to scream 'You dirty fannypacker!' whenever I entered the showers (or, worse still, simply 'Cockdodger!'). Still, I felt no shame within myself and the other boys could do nothing to dampen my straight pride.
Be true to yourself!
Simple, straightforward issues to consider, 12 Mar 1999
I've never been much for touchy-feely self help style books. I loved Signorile's straightforward, just-the-facts presentation of what you should think about before coming out to friends, family, co-workers, etc. It was particularly helpful that he pointed out some of the ways parents typically react and what kinds of things I should think about before coming out... It was definitely a comforting addition to my support group of friends.
A must-read for those coming out, 11 Jun 1998
Outing Yourself was such a great resource for me in my coming out. I gave it to four friends and each found it to be equally important to them. Every one of us held on to it--sometimes literally, particularly when the going got rough-- and went back to it when we needed support. I still do so. That's because it breaks the process down into steps and none of us is never fully finished. We're always dealing with these issues. And Signorile understands that rather simplifying it. I don't know what I'd have done without the book.
A powerful and important guide, 08 Apr 1998
Outing Yourself was my introduction to the author, Michelangelo Signorile. It helped me immensely in my own coming out process, and led me to his other, more intellectual and gripping books. This book is for everyone who is dealing with coming out, and that means everyone, for we are always all coming out, as Mr. Signorile explains, every day.
A great starting point!, 29 Sep 1997
I great place to start when you are just coming out. Gives great examples, and it very straight forward. I recommend it!
I write this as a straight spouse, 02 Sep 2003
I bought this book just after my husband of 9 years told me he was leaving me and our two children for another man, I had hoped to find answers to my many questions,hope for the future,even a story of mixed orientation marriages that have worked. However while I read many pages thinking "thats just like us", the book, I felt, painted a bleak picture. One chapter, concentrating on the children on gay parents terrified me, told the tale of how the children, while being acepting of their dads sexuality in early childhood, rebelled and suffered metal illness in young adulthood-just what I didn't want to hear! I felt there should have been some stories of hope, because when you are in this situation, sometimes hope is all you have left
The other side of the closet, 07 Jun 2003
When my husband told me that he was gay my world fell apart. This book helped me realise that I was not the only one in the world that this had happened to and that my feelings were not abnormal. It was a life saver to read that other people were in the same situation and had got through it. It is such a relief to find help for me and my children. This book offers help for wives, husbands and partners of gays, lesbians and bisexuals from all different situations. The book offers lots of different thoughts and views by real people without telling you what to think ,feel or do. The book helped me though the pain when I had no one I could go to for help.
a bad book, 11 Oct 2002
As a straight man with a wife who has come out as a lesbian I can recommend anyone in a similar situation NOT to buy this book. The author as a heterosexual woman in the extreme cannot and does not understand the lesbian woman who does not share her pleasure. If a straight man and his lesbian wife want help to come to terms with this and perhaps save a marriage then read Carol Stocks book ¡Married Women Who Love Women¡. The Other Side of the Closet for me was a total waste of money and if this reflects her counseling then those couples have my sympathy.
A good analysis, 18 Jan 2000
This book is a good balance, analysing both the str8 and gay spouse's position as well as that of the children involved. I personally would recommend it to anyone who is going through the struggles involved. Im afraid it doesnt give much hope to those couples who are trying to make it work but has given me much input into what my wife is and has gone through and how I need to keep the channels of communication open both with her and our children.
Offers no hope, 10 Aug 1999
This book is so negative. The main message is that the marriage is doomed and that the straight spouse has to suffer while a dysfunctional bi/gay partner makes up his/her mind about where he wants to go. It also offers all sorts of solutions involving sex arrangements with spouses and gay partners - an anathema to most straight spouses. The book convinced me that I must leave my straight wife, because there was no way I could save my marriage. I went as far as putting our house up for sale and making financial arrangements. Then I realized the book was wrong. Over the years I had lost my ability to think with my heart. I had become depressed and used gay sex for comfort. I am trying to save my marriage, no thanks to the book. The book is useful to those couples who maybe didn't have real love there in the first place.
Laughing My Ass Off, 19 Mar 2007
Get this book! The only dealings you'll have with the closet after reading it will be retrieving a fab outfit to wear while your OUT (terrible pun I know) and about. Not only is the book extremely well written piece of homo-literature, its also quite hilarious and it even tells ya where to find a few nice guys (for the gents) or girls for(for the ladies). As it says on the cover. 'Don't be gay without it'
A Gay 12-Step Program, Minus Two, 25 Oct 1997
So, you're gay, think you're gay, or one of those "I'm just curious" types? Then does Judy Carter have the book for you! This book helps you to explore your inner feelings towards being gay and assists in knocking the door off that closet to open up to your inner homo. Using generous amounts of her gay stand-up humor, Carter makes her book entertaining as well as informing, allowing gays to laugh at themselves as well as the narrow-minded bigots who bash them. She also incorporates numerous workbook-style exercises designed to guide gays in accepting themselves and making the rest of the world accept them, too. This is a must-read for anyone who is gay, thinks he/she might be gay, or even knows someone who is gay.
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When I Knew
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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing. Everything you need to know in a difficult situation!, 04 Mar 2008
Signorile's 'Outing Yourself' is the perfect book for those who wish to reveal their personal persuasions to a wider audience. In this day and age, one's proclivities are not something that ought to be repressed from others through fear of ridicule, yet (even now) coming out remains an especially tough step for some people to take. This book covers everything you need to know in order to be emotionally prepared for the experience.
Personally, I came out at the age of seventeen. I had known my true feelings for some time by then, but it was still extremely difficult to be open about myself. Some people find their parents to be the hardest people to reveal the truth to but, in honesty, I believe that my parents always knew that I was somehow 'different' from my classmates. I suppose that I must have been about thirteen when I started to become aware of the fact that I stood out. I don't know whether it was the way I walked, the way I dressed or even the way I spoke, but it was already apparent to all that I wasn't quite like the other kids at school. Most of them were polite to me, but I never got to feel a real sense of belonging among them. Internally, I suffered a great deal of angst at this time. I had no doubts about who I really was inside, but I was fearful of what might happen if I let this be known. Would I be accepted for who I am? In the end, I decided that I had no choice but to reveal my inclinations, in order to be true to myself- regardless of the consequences!
Anyhow, as I say, it was at seventeen that I took this step. The first person I told was my best friend Kevin. My voice trembled a little as I began to speak and a tear soon started to form in the corner of my eye, as I struggled to stutter out the truth. Would he shun me? Worse still, would he become violent towards me? Well, fortunately, no! Despite the differing nature of our lifestyles, Kevin said that he was completely okay with my admission and gave me a huge hug! This inspired a huge boost of confidence and the very next day I gathered everyone around to make an announcement. "I'm straight!" I yelled at my ballet-school classmates, without so much as a trace of embarrassment in my voice!
Well, after that things weren't quite as simple as I had hoped. Once I had exposed myself as being (what the other boys referred to as) a 'breeder', I suppose that the onslaught of heterophobic bullying was inevitable. Even to this day, I almost find myself expecting to hear cries of 'Smelly hetero!' whenever I board a bus. Perhaps cruelest of all were the insults I had to endure after practise in the locker-room. One menacingly slender boy called Marc always used to scream 'You dirty fannypacker!' whenever I entered the showers (or, worse still, simply 'Cockdodger!'). Still, I felt no shame within myself and the other boys could do nothing to dampen my straight pride.
Be true to yourself! Simple, straightforward issues to consider, 12 Mar 1999
I've never been much for touchy-feely self help style books. I loved Signorile's straightforward, just-the-facts presentation of what you should think about before coming out to friends, family, co-workers, etc. It was particularly helpful that he pointed out some of the ways parents typically react and what kinds of things I should think about before coming out... It was definitely a comforting addition to my support group of friends. A must-read for those coming out, 11 Jun 1998
Outing Yourself was such a great resource for me in my coming out. I gave it to four friends and each found it to be equally important to them. Every one of us held on to it--sometimes literally, particularly when the going got rough-- and went back to it when we needed support. I still do so. That's because it breaks the process down into steps and none of us is never fully finished. We're always dealing with these issues. And Signorile understands that rather simplifying it. I don't know what I'd have done without the book. A powerful and important guide, 08 Apr 1998
Outing Yourself was my introduction to the author, Michelangelo Signorile. It helped me immensely in my own coming out process, and led me to his other, more intellectual and gripping books. This book is for everyone who is dealing with coming out, and that means everyone, for we are always all coming out, as Mr. Signorile explains, every day. A great starting point!, 29 Sep 1997
I great place to start when you are just coming out. Gives great examples, and it very straight forward. I recommend it! I write this as a straight spouse, 02 Sep 2003
I bought this book just after my husband of 9 years told me he was leaving me and our two children for another man, I had hoped to find answers to my many questions,hope for the future,even a story of mixed orientation marriages that have worked. However while I read many pages thinking "thats just like us", the book, I felt, painted a bleak picture. One chapter, concentrating on the children on gay parents terrified me, told the tale of how the children, while being acepting of their dads sexuality in early childhood, rebelled and suffered metal illness in young adulthood-just what I didn't want to hear! I felt there should have been some stories of hope, because when you are in this situation, sometimes hope is all you have left The other side of the closet, 07 Jun 2003
When my husband told me that he was gay my world fell apart. This book helped me realise that I was not the only one in the world that this had happened to and that my feelings were not abnormal. It was a life saver to read that other people were in the same situation and had got through it. It is such a relief to find help for me and my children. This book offers help for wives, husbands and partners of gays, lesbians and bisexuals from all different situations. The book offers lots of different thoughts and views by real people without telling you what to think ,feel or do. The book helped me though the pain when I had no one I could go to for help. a bad book, 11 Oct 2002
As a straight man with a wife who has come out as a lesbian I can recommend anyone in a similar situation NOT to buy this book. The author as a heterosexual woman in the extreme cannot and does not understand the lesbian woman who does not share her pleasure. If a straight man and his lesbian wife want help to come to terms with this and perhaps save a marriage then read Carol Stocks book ¡Married Women Who Love Women¡. The Other Side of the Closet for me was a total waste of money and if this reflects her counseling then those couples have my sympathy. A good analysis, 18 Jan 2000
This book is a good balance, analysing both the str8 and gay spouse's position as well as that of the children involved. I personally would recommend it to anyone who is going through the struggles involved. Im afraid it doesnt give much hope to those couples who are trying to make it work but has given me much input into what my wife is and has gone through and how I need to keep the channels of communication open both with her and our children. Offers no hope, 10 Aug 1999
This book is so negative. The main message is that the marriage is doomed and that the straight spouse has to suffer while a dysfunctional bi/gay partner makes up his/her mind about where he wants to go. It also offers all sorts of solutions involving sex arrangements with spouses and gay partners - an anathema to most straight spouses. The book convinced me that I must leave my straight wife, because there was no way I could save my marriage. I went as far as putting our house up for sale and making financial arrangements. Then I realized the book was wrong. Over the years I had lost my ability to think with my heart. I had become depressed and used gay sex for comfort. I am trying to save my marriage, no thanks to the book. The book is useful to those couples who maybe didn't have real love there in the first place. Laughing My Ass Off, 19 Mar 2007
Get this book! The only dealings you'll have with the closet after reading it will be retrieving a fab outfit to wear while your OUT (terrible pun I know) and about. Not only is the book extremely well written piece of homo-literature, its also quite hilarious and it even tells ya where to find a few nice guys (for the gents) or girls for(for the ladies). As it says on the cover. 'Don't be gay without it' A Gay 12-Step Program, Minus Two, 25 Oct 1997
So, you're gay, think you're gay, or one of those "I'm just curious" types? Then does Judy Carter have the book for you! This book helps you to explore your inner feelings towards being gay and assists in knocking the door off that closet to open up to your inner homo. Using generous amounts of her gay stand-up humor, Carter makes her book entertaining as well as informing, allowing gays to laugh at themselves as well as the narrow-minded bigots who bash them. She also incorporates numerous workbook-style exercises designed to guide gays in accepting themselves and making the rest of the world accept them, too. This is a must-read for anyone who is gay, thinks he/she might be gay, or even knows someone who is gay. I was a little disappointed, 01 Mar 2001
I found this collection to be rather inaccesible. Although I enjoyed some of the stories, many of them seemed to be written in a deliberately obscure and rather self-indulgent way. Some of them just sort of fizzled out without any kind of conclusion or point, so I found a lot of it rather pointless. I've read much more honest and moving coming-out tales than these, which seem to focus too much on being "literary" and not enough on being truthful and reflective. Excellent Anthology of Coming Out stories!, 04 Aug 1998
I was very moved by this collection of stories by gay authors. It's a book you'll read again and again. I especially liked the way the book starts with essays about coming out in the 50's and moves up to present day experiences. Gay men will see something of themselves in the stories, and others will come to understand what it's like for a gay person to deal with their sexuality. Excellent Book, 19 Feb 1998
I am a lesbian who also enjoys reading books about gay boys & men. Coming out stories are of special interest to me. This book is exceptionally well written. It begins with pre-Stonewall entries and tells each person's story up thru the 1990's---so that the reader gets a very good overall historical view of the way homosexuality is viewed and the progress the gay community & individuals have made. Each of the stories (there are approx. 29) is told in the first person, telling the author's own experiences from youth to adulthood. With only one or two exceptions, the stories are extremely well told. All of the stories told are written by men who are professional writers.
In addition, there is a photograph of each of the men the way he appeared in his youth at the time the story happened, and in the back of the book a picture of how he looks today---along with a brief bio about him and other writings he has done.
These men really reached out and touched me. Each one made me feel as if I really knew him.
Read This Book and Come Out Wherever You Are!!!!, 11 Jan 1998
A must read for those who have come out, are coming out, haven't come out, or those who want to try to understand those who are coming out. You'll laugh, you'll cry! Better than cats--you'll read it again and again and again.... Reading this book, it was great to find out that different thoughts, feelings, experiences that occured through my coming out were shared by others, even those much older than I!
Landmark!, 05 Jun 1997
This is some anthology -- on a vital, primal topic. A real treasure, and very much needed. You'll definitely be re-reading it as the years go by. In particular, check out the pieces by Alan Gurganus, Scott Heim, Ron Caldwell and Ed Sikov.
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worthwhile read, 08 Nov 2007
reccomended by a friend and I read over a few days . This author definitely knows what he is talking about when he delves into the psyche of gay men.The relationship issues, the obsession with the body beautiful, the baggage we bring from childhood and the closet.For me it stirred up a fair amount of sediment and that is no bad thing. Everything you need to know in a difficult situation!, 04 Mar 2008
Signorile's 'Outing Yourself' is the perfect book for those who wish to reveal their personal persuasions to a wider audience. In this day and age, one's proclivities are not something that ought to be repressed from others through fear of ridicule, yet (even now) coming out remains an especially tough step for some people to take. This book covers everything you need to know in order to be emotionally prepared for the experience.
Personally, I came out at the age of seventeen. I had known my true feelings for some time by then, but it was still extremely difficult to be open about myself. Some people find their parents to be the hardest people to reveal the truth to but, in honesty, I believe that my parents always knew that I was somehow 'different' from my classmates. I suppose that I must have been about thirteen when I started to become aware of the fact that I stood out. I don't know whether it was the way I walked, the way I dressed or even the way I spoke, but it was already apparent to all that I wasn't quite like the other kids at school. Most of them were polite to me, but I never got to feel a real sense of belonging among them. Internally, I suffered a great deal of angst at this time. I had no doubts about who I really was inside, but I was fearful of what might happen if I let this be known. Would I be accepted for who I am? In the end, I decided that I had no choice but to reveal my inclinations, in order to be true to myself- regardless of the consequences!
Anyhow, as I say, it was at seventeen that I took this step. The first person I told was my best friend Kevin. My voice trembled a little as I began to speak and a tear soon started to form in the corner of my eye, as I struggled to stutter out the truth. Would he shun me? Worse still, would he become violent towards me? Well, fortunately, no! Despite the differing nature of our lifestyles, Kevin said that he was completely okay with my admission and gave me a huge hug! This inspired a huge boost of confidence and the very next day I gathered everyone around to make an announcement. "I'm straight!" I yelled at my ballet-school classmates, without so much as a trace of embarrassment in my voice!
Well, after that things weren't quite as simple as I had hoped. Once I had exposed myself as being (what the other boys referred to as) a 'breeder', I suppose that the onslaught of heterophobic bullying was inevitable. Even to this day, I almost find myself expecting to hear cries of 'Smelly hetero!' whenever I board a bus. Perhaps cruelest of all were the insults I had to endure after practise in the locker-room. One menacingly slender boy called Marc always used to scream 'You dirty fannypacker!' whenever I entered the showers (or, worse still, simply 'Cockdodger!'). Still, I felt no shame within myself and the other boys could do nothing to dampen my straight pride.
Be true to yourself! Simple, straightforward issues to consider, 12 Mar 1999
I've never been much for touchy-feely self help style books. I loved Signorile's straightforward, just-the-facts presentation of what you should think about before coming out to friends, family, co-workers, etc. It was particularly helpful that he pointed out some of the ways parents typically react and what kinds of things I should think about before coming out... It was definitely a comforting addition to my support group of friends. A must-read for those coming out, 11 Jun 1998
Outing Yourself was such a great resource for me in my coming out. I gave it to four friends and each found it to be equally important to them. Every one of us held on to it--sometimes literally, particularly when the going got rough-- and went back to it when we needed support. I still do so. That's because it breaks the process down into steps and none of us is never fully finished. We're always dealing with these issues. And Signorile understands that rather simplifying it. I don't know what I'd have done without the book. A powerful and important guide, 08 Apr 1998
Outing Yourself was my introduction to the author, Michelangelo Signorile. It helped me immensely in my own coming out process, and led me to his other, more intellectual and gripping books. This book is for everyone who is dealing with coming out, and that means everyone, for we are always all coming out, as Mr. Signorile explains, every day. A great starting point!, 29 Sep 1997
I great place to start when you are just coming out. Gives great examples, and it very straight forward. I recommend it! I write this as a straight spouse, 02 Sep 2003
I bought this book just after my husband of 9 years told me he was leaving me and our two children for another man, I had hoped to find answers to my many questions,hope for the future,even a story of mixed orientation marriages that have worked. However while I read many pages thinking "thats just like us", the book, I felt, painted a bleak picture. One chapter, concentrating on the children on gay parents terrified me, told the tale of how the children, while being acepting of their dads sexuality in early childhood, rebelled and suffered metal illness in young adulthood-just what I didn't want to hear! I felt there should have been some stories of hope, because when you are in this situation, sometimes hope is all you have left The other side of the closet, 07 Jun 2003
When my husband told me that he was gay my world fell apart. This book helped me realise that I was not the only one in the world that this had happened to and that my feelings were not abnormal. It was a life saver to read that other people were in the same situation and had got through it. It is such a relief to find help for me and my children. This book offers help for wives, husbands and partners of gays, lesbians and bisexuals from all different situations. The book offers lots of different thoughts and views by real people without telling you what to think ,feel or do. The book helped me though the pain when I had no one I could go to for help. a bad book, 11 Oct 2002
As a straight man with a wife who has come out as a lesbian I can recommend anyone in a similar situation NOT to buy this book. The author as a heterosexual woman in the extreme cannot and does not understand the lesbian woman who does not share her pleasure. If a straight man and his lesbian wife want help to come to terms with this and perhaps save a marriage then read Carol Stocks book ¡Married Women Who Love Women¡. The Other Side of the Closet for me was a total waste of money and if this reflects her counseling then those couples have my sympathy. A good analysis, 18 Jan 2000
This book is a good balance, analysing both the str8 and gay spouse's position as well as that of the children involved. I personally would recommend it to anyone who is going through the struggles involved. Im afraid it doesnt give much hope to those couples who are trying to make it work but has given me much input into what my wife is and has gone through and how I need to keep the channels of communication open both with her and our children. Offers no hope, 10 Aug 1999
This book is so negative. The main message is that the marriage is doomed and that the straight spouse has to suffer while a dysfunctional bi/gay partner makes up his/her mind about where he wants to go. It also offers all sorts of solutions involving sex arrangements with spouses and gay partners - an anathema to most straight spouses. The book convinced me that I must leave my straight wife, because there was no way I could save my marriage. I went as far as putting our house up for sale and making financial arrangements. Then I realized the book was wrong. Over the years I had lost my ability to think with my heart. I had become depressed and used gay sex for comfort. I am trying to save my marriage, no thanks to the book. The book is useful to those couples who maybe didn't have real love there in the first place. Laughing My Ass Off, 19 Mar 2007
Get this book! The only dealings you'll have with the closet after reading it will be retrieving a fab outfit to wear while your OUT (terrible pun I know) and about. Not only is the book extremely well written piece of homo-literature, its also quite hilarious and it even tells ya where to find a few nice guys (for the gents) or girls for(for the ladies). As it says on the cover. 'Don't be gay without it' A Gay 12-Step Program, Minus Two, 25 Oct 1997
So, you're gay, think you're gay, or one of those "I'm just curious" types? Then does Judy Carter have the book for you! This book helps you to explore your inner feelings towards being gay and assists in knocking the door off that closet to open up to your inner homo. Using generous amounts of her gay stand-up humor, Carter makes her book entertaining as well as informing, allowing gays to laugh at themselves as well as the narrow-minded bigots who bash them. She also incorporates numerous workbook-style exercises designed to guide gays in accepting themselves and making the rest of the world accept them, too. This is a must-read for anyone who is gay, thinks he/she might be gay, or even knows someone who is gay. I was a little disappointed, 01 Mar 2001
I found this collection to be rather inaccesible. Although I enjoyed some of the stories, many of them seemed to be written in a deliberately obscure and rather self-indulgent way. Some of them just sort of fizzled out without any kind of conclusion or point, so I found a lot of it rather pointless. I've read much more honest and moving coming-out tales than these, which seem to focus too much on being "literary" and not enough on being truthful and reflective. Excellent Anthology of Coming Out stories!, 04 Aug 1998
I was very moved by this collection of stories by gay authors. It's a book you'll read again and again. I especially liked the way the book starts with essays about coming out in the 50's and moves up to present day experiences. Gay men will see something of themselves in the stories, and others will come to understand what it's like for a gay person to deal with their sexuality. Excellent Book, 19 Feb 1998
I am a lesbian who also enjoys reading books about gay boys & men. Coming out stories are of special interest to me. This book is exceptionally well written. It begins with pre-Stonewall entries and tells each person's story up thru the 1990's---so that the reader gets a very good overall historical view of the way homosexuality is viewed and the progress the gay community & individuals have made. Each of the stories (there are approx. 29) is told in the first person, telling the author's own experiences from youth to adulthood. With only one or two exceptions, the stories are extremely well told. All of the stories told are written by men who are professional writers.
In addition, there is a photograph of each of the men the way he appeared in his youth at the time the story happened, and in the back of the book a picture of how he looks today---along with a brief bio about him and other writings he has done.
These men really reached out and touched me. Each one made me feel as if I really knew him.
Read This Book and Come Out Wherever You Are!!!!, 11 Jan 1998
A must read for those who have come out, are coming out, haven't come out, or those who want to try to understand those who are coming out. You'll laugh, you'll cry! Better than cats--you'll read it again and again and again.... Reading this book, it was great to find out that different thoughts, feelings, experiences that occured through my coming out were shared by others, even those much older than I!
Landmark!, 05 Jun 1997
This is some anthology -- on a vital, primal topic. A real treasure, and very much needed. You'll definitely be re-reading it as the years go by. In particular, check out the pieces by Alan Gurganus, Scott Heim, Ron Caldwell and Ed Sikov.
I can see Queerly now, 11 Nov 2003
Despite my friends always asking, I was always far to nervous to confirm their suspisions. the seemed to think that my 'fetish' for tight T-shirts was abnormal and this made me so unconfident i felt i had to hide behind my hair. Thanks to GLBTQ everything is going to be alright...i may not have told my friends yet, but this book has given me the confidence to visit those clubs and meet others like me (although i have to lie about my age to get in!) so thankyou Amazon, and thankyou for helping me to find the answers on how to survive the assault course that is Gay,lesbian, Bisexual or transgender life...im not sure which yet!
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