Cure for cancer? End to world hunger? What's left to do after the publication of Felice Newman's definitive guide to lesbian sex? Drawing on a wide range of published sources as well as her own notoriously graphic questionnaire circulated by e-mail--stunning mild-mannered office workers as it reeled across their computer screens--Newman has compiled an exhaustively thorough how-to guide for practices as exotic as play piercings and as pedestrian as oral sex. Along the way, she offers a primer in sexual politics and lesbian manners at the turn of the century. The S/M hanky code is laid out once and for all. There is even a (brief, happily brief) section on celibacy.

Highlights include descriptions of sex writer Tristan Taormino's private consultation with Betty Dodson, the author of Sex for One described as "the mother of masturbation": "I was so excited about this adventure that I nearly peed in my pants", recalled Taormino, "I was going to touch myself for Dr Betty Dodson!" (In the end, Newman reports, "Tristan earned an A+ in pelvic thrusting, but got a big 'needs improvement' in the breathing department".) Although it sometimes skimps on the details, especially with regard to women's health, The Whole Lesbian Sex Book is so rich, inclusive, and authoritative that it invites challenge. Now inventive lovers can ask each other: "Is it in Whole Lesbian?" --Regina Marler

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

boring!!!!!!!!, 26 Oct 2008
as a lesbian i found this book a chore to read, nothing from the pictures (photos look like they were taken by men, in the typical lesbian porno style format) to the boring prose actually make this an intersting book about women who love women. no tips in it that us ladies dont know already ;). check out other books first and only buy it if you are desperate....very disapointed

Beautiful photography and inspiring text!!!, 25 Sep 2008
This book is not a polished, coffee table, collector's item of lesbian photography - it's an instructional manual. But one can be forgiven for this initial assumption given the astounding color photography laced throughout this work. Almost every page is adorned with gorgeous, full-page images of girl-on-girl sexuality. The photography is is simply breathtaking and holds absolutely nothing back. We're talking full-frontal assault here ... and the lesbian experience is showcased in all it's beautiful, romantic, intoxicating glory.

Heterosexual women are the targeted audience and the book's premise is introducing them to the beauty of the lesbian encounter. The author, renown sex expert Jayme Waxman, provides a host of very usable information that, besides being very accessible, is almost encyclopedic in it coverage. Topics include famous women who took female lovers; the sensory joys of touch, smell, and taste; how to find, approach, and engage with other women; toy play, girl-on-girl-on-girl encounters; she even explores, in great detail, the fine art of tongue play. Ms. Waxman is masterful in her prose. It's quite inspiring actually, and like Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School", one feels compelled to stand-up in a crowded room and shout, "Yes! Yes! Oh Yes!"

The publisher Quiver does an excellent job too - the production quality is superb and despite being a paperback, this book is put together like a tank. Ultimately, despite it's lovely appearance, "Women Loving Women" is designed to be an inspiring, carry-with-you-everywhere instructional manual that will jettison its female readers into the ravishing depths of making love with other beautiful women. And I can personally that attest that men will love it too.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

boring!!!!!!!!, 26 Oct 2008
as a lesbian i found this book a chore to read, nothing from the pictures (photos look like they were taken by men, in the typical lesbian porno style format) to the boring prose actually make this an intersting book about women who love women. no tips in it that us ladies dont know already ;). check out other books first and only buy it if you are desperate....very disapointed

Beautiful photography and inspiring text!!!, 25 Sep 2008
This book is not a polished, coffee table, collector's item of lesbian photography - it's an instructional manual. But one can be forgiven for this initial assumption given the astounding color photography laced throughout this work. Almost every page is adorned with gorgeous, full-page images of girl-on-girl sexuality. The photography is is simply breathtaking and holds absolutely nothing back. We're talking full-frontal assault here ... and the lesbian experience is showcased in all it's beautiful, romantic, intoxicating glory.

Heterosexual women are the targeted audience and the book's premise is introducing them to the beauty of the lesbian encounter. The author, renown sex expert Jayme Waxman, provides a host of very usable information that, besides being very accessible, is almost encyclopedic in it coverage. Topics include famous women who took female lovers; the sensory joys of touch, smell, and taste; how to find, approach, and engage with other women; toy play, girl-on-girl-on-girl encounters; she even explores, in great detail, the fine art of tongue play. Ms. Waxman is masterful in her prose. It's quite inspiring actually, and like Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School", one feels compelled to stand-up in a crowded room and shout, "Yes! Yes! Oh Yes!"

The publisher Quiver does an excellent job too - the production quality is superb and despite being a paperback, this book is put together like a tank. Ultimately, despite it's lovely appearance, "Women Loving Women" is designed to be an inspiring, carry-with-you-everywhere instructional manual that will jettison its female readers into the ravishing depths of making love with other beautiful women. And I can personally that attest that men will love it too.

TOO MUCH TEXT, 04 Sep 2008
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO MAKE OF THIS. THERE'S FAR TOO MUCH WRITING.THE MOMENT OF PASSION WOULD BE GONE BY THE TIME YOU FIND SOMETHING TO TRY. ITS ONLY ALRIGHT.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

boring!!!!!!!!, 26 Oct 2008
as a lesbian i found this book a chore to read, nothing from the pictures (photos look like they were taken by men, in the typical lesbian porno style format) to the boring prose actually make this an intersting book about women who love women. no tips in it that us ladies dont know already ;). check out other books first and only buy it if you are desperate....very disapointed

Beautiful photography and inspiring text!!!, 25 Sep 2008
This book is not a polished, coffee table, collector's item of lesbian photography - it's an instructional manual. But one can be forgiven for this initial assumption given the astounding color photography laced throughout this work. Almost every page is adorned with gorgeous, full-page images of girl-on-girl sexuality. The photography is is simply breathtaking and holds absolutely nothing back. We're talking full-frontal assault here ... and the lesbian experience is showcased in all it's beautiful, romantic, intoxicating glory.

Heterosexual women are the targeted audience and the book's premise is introducing them to the beauty of the lesbian encounter. The author, renown sex expert Jayme Waxman, provides a host of very usable information that, besides being very accessible, is almost encyclopedic in it coverage. Topics include famous women who took female lovers; the sensory joys of touch, smell, and taste; how to find, approach, and engage with other women; toy play, girl-on-girl-on-girl encounters; she even explores, in great detail, the fine art of tongue play. Ms. Waxman is masterful in her prose. It's quite inspiring actually, and like Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School", one feels compelled to stand-up in a crowded room and shout, "Yes! Yes! Oh Yes!"

The publisher Quiver does an excellent job too - the production quality is superb and despite being a paperback, this book is put together like a tank. Ultimately, despite it's lovely appearance, "Women Loving Women" is designed to be an inspiring, carry-with-you-everywhere instructional manual that will jettison its female readers into the ravishing depths of making love with other beautiful women. And I can personally that attest that men will love it too.

TOO MUCH TEXT, 04 Sep 2008
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO MAKE OF THIS. THERE'S FAR TOO MUCH WRITING.THE MOMENT OF PASSION WOULD BE GONE BY THE TIME YOU FIND SOMETHING TO TRY. ITS ONLY ALRIGHT.

Ultimate knowledge, 14 Sep 2002
Jam-packed with more information than most of us would ever think of to ask, this great little book deals with most of the very diverent issues surrounding strap-on sex. These cover the practical and technical aspects of dildo-play, safety and health issues (including an amazingly comprehensive list of the various risks / features of certain materials used in sex toys and lubricants) and some of the emotional hurdles that may occur when experimenting with harness play for the first time. Featuring genuine letters from Fairy Butch's previous readership, the subject matter is handled forthrightly and thouroughly. Some readers may feel it is written with a very strong lesbian bias, although the general tone is one of inclusivity and the author frequently talks about the subject matter within the setting of a heterosexual partnership. Overall, a worthwhile investment for novices and afficionados alike.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

boring!!!!!!!!, 26 Oct 2008
as a lesbian i found this book a chore to read, nothing from the pictures (photos look like they were taken by men, in the typical lesbian porno style format) to the boring prose actually make this an intersting book about women who love women. no tips in it that us ladies dont know already ;). check out other books first and only buy it if you are desperate....very disapointed

Beautiful photography and inspiring text!!!, 25 Sep 2008
This book is not a polished, coffee table, collector's item of lesbian photography - it's an instructional manual. But one can be forgiven for this initial assumption given the astounding color photography laced throughout this work. Almost every page is adorned with gorgeous, full-page images of girl-on-girl sexuality. The photography is is simply breathtaking and holds absolutely nothing back. We're talking full-frontal assault here ... and the lesbian experience is showcased in all it's beautiful, romantic, intoxicating glory.

Heterosexual women are the targeted audience and the book's premise is introducing them to the beauty of the lesbian encounter. The author, renown sex expert Jayme Waxman, provides a host of very usable information that, besides being very accessible, is almost encyclopedic in it coverage. Topics include famous women who took female lovers; the sensory joys of touch, smell, and taste; how to find, approach, and engage with other women; toy play, girl-on-girl-on-girl encounters; she even explores, in great detail, the fine art of tongue play. Ms. Waxman is masterful in her prose. It's quite inspiring actually, and like Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School", one feels compelled to stand-up in a crowded room and shout, "Yes! Yes! Oh Yes!"

The publisher Quiver does an excellent job too - the production quality is superb and despite being a paperback, this book is put together like a tank. Ultimately, despite it's lovely appearance, "Women Loving Women" is designed to be an inspiring, carry-with-you-everywhere instructional manual that will jettison its female readers into the ravishing depths of making love with other beautiful women. And I can personally that attest that men will love it too.

TOO MUCH TEXT, 04 Sep 2008
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO MAKE OF THIS. THERE'S FAR TOO MUCH WRITING.THE MOMENT OF PASSION WOULD BE GONE BY THE TIME YOU FIND SOMETHING TO TRY. ITS ONLY ALRIGHT.

Ultimate knowledge, 14 Sep 2002
Jam-packed with more information than most of us would ever think of to ask, this great little book deals with most of the very diverent issues surrounding strap-on sex. These cover the practical and technical aspects of dildo-play, safety and health issues (including an amazingly comprehensive list of the various risks / features of certain materials used in sex toys and lubricants) and some of the emotional hurdles that may occur when experimenting with harness play for the first time. Featuring genuine letters from Fairy Butch's previous readership, the subject matter is handled forthrightly and thouroughly. Some readers may feel it is written with a very strong lesbian bias, although the general tone is one of inclusivity and the author frequently talks about the subject matter within the setting of a heterosexual partnership. Overall, a worthwhile investment for novices and afficionados alike.

A Leather Must Read, 27 Sep 1997
Leatherfolk's author list includes some of the best known names in the leather community: Dorothy Allison, Geoff Mains, Sam Steward, Jack Fritscher, Mark Thompson, Guy Baldwin, Wickie Stamps, John Preston, Pat Califia, Joseph Bean, and others. The writing is honest and insightful. (This is not another how-to manual.) I highly recommend this book to anyone seeking SM roots; this book offers history, politics, spirituality, and anthropological self-study.

Superb book. A 100% straight girl would get enough out of this to justify buying it!, 03 Oct 2008
This book really covers everything about and around lesbian sexuality, but much of it could be just as useful to our straight sisters. The author is open-minded, non-judgemental and inclusionist. There are tons of resources, not just in the extensive appendix section, but also scattered references throughout the book. These are sound. Be it porn that is not misogynistic (yes! it does exist!), gender theory resources, or books and media on overcoming sexual trauma, the book would be a goldmine in an information jungle, if only for these.

The actual content however :) works its way from Desire/Fantasies, to Anatomy (with one of the best cross section diagrams I have seen), Orgasm, Emotional Health issues, Masturbation, Communication, Partners, Different types of sex, Gender theory, S&M, Sex Parties, Toys, and finally to Sexual Health.

Throughout the tone is light and friendly, and the book is simply life-affirming and joyous to read. Yes, this book centers on physical issues and the self, this is *not* erotica, and the cute black & white illustrations are not porn. This is a reference book that gives a great overview over the multi-faceted issue that is human female sexuality, specifically lesbian. Well worth it :)

What just happened?, 19 Jun 2006
Okay so lesbians should practice safe sex... This book does offer a few pointers that is thoughtfull, but having read the book I would rather throw in the trash than actually use it in my sexlife. The whole glove thing (as a pendent to the condom) is a huge turnoff.
The fact is, there are better books out there, that gets more in touch with the heart of things.
Instead of guiding, this book is more a pornographic how to do book, that deals with a huge sex aspect and not making love.

great book, 26 Mar 2006
This was book first book I bought and read on lesbian sex and it will be my last because this book has taught me a lot over the years. I bought it six years ago and I still read it now again it`s great bedside book.

If only it were a little more graphic, 07 Sep 2004
I read this book on one of those long, lonely nights. I recently split up with my long-term girlfriend, and wanted a bit of company, or simply something to take my mind off missing my Butch so much.
It started off well, but really didn't go into enough detail, and had none of the graphic content I had been be led to believe. In the end I had to cut my losses and rent a Misty Mundae from Blockbuster.
If you aren't that into lesbianism, and like your entertainment light, then this may well be the book for you. But if you are a little more hardcore, I advise you to steer clear.

The only book you need, 25 Sep 2001
the best guide out there, if you don't know what you're doing when it comes to lesbian sex then this is the book for you. If you do know, then but it anyway, you can still learn more!

A must read for every man that has sex with men!!, 31 Aug 1999
When I decided to buy this book I was hoping for some insight info about sex with men. I am bisexual and in my country (southern Europe) sex between men is just something that nobody discusses...Dr. Goldstone knows what he is talking about, he is blunt but very informative; he goes straight to the point and gives you lots of important information on how to take the most out of gay sex and be disease free...You definitely have to read this book, even if you have been in bed with thousands of men and think "you know it all"...believe me...you don't...

Think you know it all? Read this book!, 09 Jun 1999
The topics that are covered in this book - including penis enlargement, drugs and STDs - were guided by the questions that Dr. Goldstone's patients asked him during his 15 years as a physician in New York City. The book is interspersed with stories from his practice, which reveal the intense fears, misunderstandings and, all too often, shame that gay men have about these issues. This book gives us gay men the answers we need to keep our sex hot and our bodies healthy.

Important information you should know!, 29 May 1999
This book provides lots of useful information about the parts of our bodies that we are not always comfortable talking about (in my case - my backside) I wish this books had come out a year ago, it would have saved me a lot of pain and worry. I think everybody should have copy!

Recommended, 17 May 1999
For almost two decades, many have viewed the AIDS epidemic as paramount among gay men's health concerns. While never ignoring its centrality, Goldstone reminds his readers that there are myriad other considerations not only for self-identified gay men but for all "men who have sex with men." Among the wide range of sexual practices and concerns Goldstone covers are anal intercourse, sexually transmitted viral and bacterial infections, impotence, oral sex and HIV transmission, as well as recreational and prescription drug use and abuse. He also discusses ancillary cultural issues such as how being monogamous, living in an open relationship or having numerous sexual partners can affect safe sex practices. Goldstone's medical information is up-to-date and accurate; although, as he points out, treatments for AIDS change almost monthly. While the book covers the safety and health aspects of body piercing, its lack of information about the health implications of the wide range of sadomasochistic practices prevalent in the gay male community is a drawback. On the other hand, Goldstone has a positive, nonjudgmental attitude toward sex. This openness, combined with a chatty style (replete with bad jokes and not very subtle innuendo, reminiscent of David Reuben's Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex (but without the moralizing), makes Goldstone's book unusually reader-friendly.

Gay Sex Without Gloss, 06 Sep 2003
Not as detailed as Joy Of, but better in some ways by focussing on fewer issues. I like pencil sketches of men being men, and find this book a simple, non-glossy guide to the way things are, might be, and sometimes should be. It is A4 size and slim enough to slip anywhere unobtrusively for a furtive read.

There are no great revelations, but as a simple exposition of what two or more men can do together,or even alone, it is a good book to have around. If nothing else,it provides simple reassurance and some good pictures, and there are days when these alone are better than any downloads on the Internet.

I like the book, it is not a super sex manual,it is a simple low-key guide to male mating rituals, and how to do whatever you need to do with whatever equipment you have to hand; but it is without hype, and is exactly what its title says.

Wow! Shock, smile, let's read some more!, 23 Jan 2006
I opened this not kowing what I would find. The first pages I looked at mentioned "handballing" and I immediately shut the book. As a feminist it took me a little while to get into what they were talking about here. Luckily, I'm a liberal.

There is a definate focus on butch/femme relationships which gives the book a slightly subversive feel, and the interviews are very welcome. It was nice to see some trans inclusion with an interview with the lovely Kate Bornstein, and with Les Feinberg, who I admire greatly.

Practially the book gives you what you want. It is down and dirty when it comes to advice and doesn't shirk from being explicit. It isn't for the fainthearted.

The inclusion of topics covering everything from kissing to BDSM means you get a wide spread of enjoyable practices that are clearly explained and encouraged.

Throughout the book, our sexuality is posited as powerful and demanding, not in a way that men have constructed, which is usual in most sex manuals, but here it is owned completely by women.

My girlfriend and I have only begun to explore what it can do for us, and it looks like it's going to be a regular read from now on.

Full of regrets, 20 Jan 2006
I found this book to be a regretful read!
If your a femme or baby dyke, then don`t bother.
Its outdated and old fashioned. However if your old school then this could come in very handy even if its a bit rushed at times, and simplistic.

Great Book!, 10 Jan 2006
Unlike some other lesbian sex books I've seen which talk more about health and relationships, this one is purely about sex - both monogomous and casual. As a complete beginner to the subject I found it incredibly useful, but I feel 100% certain that other people more advanced than me would also get something from it. In fact, some of the stuff was so advanced it scared me a bit! All the subjects covered go into a good amount of detail - not too little and not so much that you get bored. I would definately recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a few ideas to spice up your sex life!

boring!!!!!!!!, 26 Oct 2008
as a lesbian i found this book a chore to read, nothing from the pictures (photos look like they were taken by men, in the typical lesbian porno style format) to the boring prose actually make this an intersting book about women who love women. no tips in it that us ladies dont know already ;). check out other books first and only buy it if you are desperate....very disapointed

Beautiful photography and inspiring text!!!, 25 Sep 2008
This book is not a polished, coffee table, collector's item of lesbian photography - it's an instructional manual. But one can be forgiven for this initial assumption given the astounding color photography laced throughout this work. Almost every page is adorned with gorgeous, full-page images of girl-on-girl sexuality. The photography is is simply breathtaking and holds absolutely nothing back. We're talking full-frontal assault here ... and the lesbian experience is showcased in all it's beautiful, romantic, intoxicating glory.

Heterosexual women are the targeted audience and the book's premise is introducing them to the beauty of the lesbian encounter. The author, renown sex expert Jayme Waxman, provides a host of very usable information that, besides being very accessible, is almost encyclopedic in it coverage. Topics include famous women who took female lovers; the sensory joys of touch, smell, and taste; how to find, approach, and engage with other women; toy play, girl-on-girl-on-girl encounters; she even explores, in great detail, the fine art of tongue play. Ms. Waxman is masterful in her prose. It's quite inspiring actually, and like Rodney Dangerfield in "Back to School", one feels compelled to stand-up in a crowded room and shout, "Yes! Yes! Oh Yes!"

The publisher Quiver does an excellent job too - the production quality is superb and despite being a paperback, this book is put together like a tank. Ultimately, despite it's lovely appearance, "Women Loving Women" is designed to be an inspiring, carry-with-you-everywhere ins